I'm not sure anyone can tell you what you should do. The sad fact is, that while hernias can be very pwinfull and potentially life threatning (strangulated), the repairs can produce so many complications that the original hernia pain seems like a minor inconveinience. Check out the posts here and also look at dub dub dub dot herniabible dot com. The site (a little biased but realy good info about alternate methods to mesh and non~tensionnrepair) discuses a strategy called "watchfull waiting". It goes a little against the instant repair dogma inbthe medical world,..... but honestly had I known that even a fraction of what I've undergone would have been possible, I would gladly choose to wait.
My advice, ..... read asmuch as you can, ask your medical team about your concerns and any contradictory info between their spin and your research, and make an informed decision. A luxary many of us wish we had.
Good luck!!!