if your baby is due in spetember there's nothing u can do now but have it. if you really cant cope with raising the baby u could consider adoption. it is 2 l8 4 abortion. having a baby so young is going 2 b hard (it's hard when you r older with a career and marriage etc) but that doesnt mean that it is all bad. sure you have the sleepless nights and stress about weight gain and feeding but when that baby smiles at you and grabs your finger and calls you mummy that outweighs everything. you have 2 b strong 4 your baby now. it sounds like u have the support of family so that should make it easier. i wish you all the luck in the world. if you need some1 2 talk 2 message me xxx

Thanks so much for your support. I do love her and its going to be really hard. Adoption just doesn;t feel right so I'm probably going to keep her. Hiopefully my BF will get a little happy about it:) Thanks so much.

you commented on the other girls post about being 15 and pregnant.
you gave her advice that you should be listening to yourself.
how are you going to afford to raise this baby, where are you going to be living, how are you going to juggle a job to provide for yourself and this baby and carry on going to school, does you boyfriend want this baby too? the likelyness of him wanting this baby is very slim, and he probably wont stick around for long..
you dont have a job, your only 15 and babysitting and doing chores does not even come close to the amount of money that you need to raise a child.

adoption is not all that bad. you can set up an open adoption, and choose how involved you want to be in the child's life, and you still get to live yours to the fullest.

it costs about $40,000 to raise a child or more and increases as that child gets older. and since you do not have a job nor $40,000 that means your parents will be the main caregivers of this child, and that is not fair to them seeing as they have their own child(ren) to care for and more.
so how are you and your boyfriend going to raise this child together without outside help?
you are wanting this child, and it is your responsibility to provide for this child now.
since your not done school yet, it will make things that much harder to get a good paying job without a high school diploma. and babysitters are not cheap either.

and you had already posted that your boyfriend is not 100% into having this child, he probably wont stick around for long..no teen boy wants be a grown up and act responsible.
do your parents know your pregnant?
i think you should weigh out all your options. your 16 you have your whole life ahead of you..what can you offer a child?

Maybe once your baby is born your boyfriend will love her as much as you do. It might take him a little while, but babies have a way of making people warm up to them. It's normal for him to be scared, but he'll get over it =)

taryn, its nice to hope that but for teenagers, very few boys change their mind. quite a few deny the baby is theirs, leave the girlfriend and have nothing to do with the baby

ProudMommy, true, but he's stuck with her this far, hasn't he? In my experience, boys who don't want anything to do with the baby deny the child is theirs as soon as they find out about the pregnancy and leave the girl in the act. And she did mention that her boyfriend's parents are being very supportive... so who knows?

If he does leave, like you said he could, and 2BeReal decides to keep her baby, I suppose the least he could do is provide some money to help her raise the baby, even if he isn't directly involved. I see how difficult this would be for a couple of teens, though, so maybe your suggestion for open adoption would be the best =S Like you said, she could still be involved in her child's life while living her own life to the fullest.

but the fact that she posted he is not really wanting the baby fully throws up red flags in my opinion.
they dont have to deny or leave right away either, down the road it could happen and to me, looks like he just might do so.

of course he should and could give child support to her if he decides to leave, but i mean she herself is not fully sure if she wants this baby and seems to just be saying yes ill keep it for the hell of it..
her parents are going to end up supporting this child financially being main caregivers, and seeing as she probably does not have a job or a good job to support this child seeing as shes in school..
i dont think she's weighing out all her options of what is to come,what could happen and how much of a big deal this is.

he probably doesn't seem attached yet because he isn't. my boyfriend isn't either. see you are, you carry around this baby for 9 months. she is a part of you and you feel her every movement and everything about her. you become a mother the second your child is conceived, guys dont until they hold their baby in their arms for the first time. when she is born and he holds her, you will see his eyes light up.
it just hasn't hit him as a reality yet, but it will. he has stuck by you so far so i don't think he is running. and i think if he really didn't want it, he would say something to you. it all just hasn't sunk in yet for him, give him some time and it will.

for grown men, i can see that as true.
but for teens, reality does not set in for a while..at least for the boys..
a friend of mine had her baby at 19, the father of her baby left when he was a year old..the guy doesnt necessarily have to leave right when he hears the words "im pregnant"
my friends ex was supportive the whole way through too, in the delivery room, and looked so happy to be a dad.
but things changed in a year and he left them.

you may not believe in adoption and it may be hard but alot of adoption places of a thing called open adoption where you will get letters and pics of your baby growing up. im adopted and mine wasnt like that. it was difficult hearing i was adopted but my b.m was 14 almost 15 and my b.f was 19.

i look at the life and parents i have and thanks god she had the sense to give me up.now dont get me wrong i have no idea how my life couldve been but just with what little history i got i dont think it wouldve gone too well.

im sure you hear this alot but think about whats best for your baby. if you feel you can raise a child alone or with the father of her then go for it.

sorry but proudmum; why do you feel the urge to put people down?

you could try and talk more incourgingly.

im not putting anyone down.
its the reality that i am showing all these girls on here who think that taking care of a baby is a cake walk and not a huge issue.
its the reality.
a reality that most young girls deny is real and put aside. they dont think of the out comes, the risks, the finanicial stress, the ones who they are burdening and the life of an innocent child that could be emdangering.
all they think is what they want and they dont care how they will get it.
its not a put down, its reality. and constructive criticism. if you think its putting people down, its not.
its a reality that no one can understand until they are in that position. and speaking from first hand experience it was a real eye opener. and i think most of the other girls here in my position would say the same.