change your locks. You have the right to do that. Maybe even report it to the police so its on record. tell your ex that he can schedule a time thats convient for you for him to get his things. This is just another way for him to manipulate you. I know cause mine did the same thing when we split. By me letting him do this i was playin the same game. Change your locks, he will know you are serious. I know how you feel though.

May take some legal advice on this one (which I can't give). You need to verify he's not on leases, etc. or technically not a "resident" there.

I agree with changing locks though. If he for sure is not a resident in your place, I would sent him a letter and give him 30 days to collect his goods, but only in your presence and in the presence of the police. Most jurisdictions will send an officer so that there's no trouble. I'd even give him a set of dates in which he can move his stuff, by appointment only. If he doesn't make an appointment at least 3 days in advance, I wouldn't even be there on the dates you offer him...he may try to just show up on one of the dates so you don't have time to have the police around.

If he doesn't make an appoint or suggest reasonable other times, I would tell him you will place the property in the street. Or to be more than fair, if you can rent a storage place for $25 for one month and sent him a letter telling him before the rent expires and that he needs to get his crap or lose it.

Document everything though, dates, times, keep copies of leases, receipts, photograph his stuff and it's the condition. Otherwise you'll end up in peoples court getting yelled at by Judge Judy for not covering your hindside. You might even consider a hidden camera that has a timestamp. If he's not a resident then you may be able to use it to have him arrested for trespass.

It does sound like in some way the police think he's a resident, otherwise they should have arrested him already. Try to search for local government agencies that may give you legal advice for free.

Good luck and be safe.

There are charity organizations around that will come by and pick up and carry all his things out for you. You just tell them he died if they ask where the owner is. Then change the locks and tell the police you are worried about a stalker.

Give this guy warning you are going to do all this, so he can get his stuff out while you are not home. If possible have some one present while he is removing his things, so if he trashes your house there is a witness.

Buy yeah, if he does not want his stuff sell if off(yard sell) or give it all to charity. Bon fire might not be bad either, but be careful you do not burn anything down.

I hope you do well and get out of this situation safely.

The guy is a jerk to say the least.

I have an alarm company coming on Friday. When he comes in and sets it off, not only will he have to explain why he doesnt know the code, but it will be a documented illegal entry and a beginning to actually HAVING to remove his stuff in a supervised and timely manner. I own this home by myself - he doenst even have mail come to this address. Aside from the property he has kept here over the years, he has no claim here as a resident. I got really angry after reading my own post. I am being violated in my own home by a bully and feeling powerless. If this person were unknown to me, the law would be very clear. I think Ive found a safe and potent way of pushing back. I wont give him advance warning. Let him squirm.

Awesome! That is the attitude! He has no right to make you feel this way./ Way to go girl!