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Q: He's bi, and I'm horny! Help!

asked by: spanishfly on October 28th, 2009

New User

My boyfriend and I seperated for a month and agreed to be monogamous but then he started a relationship with a man. he says he was 'high' when they messed around and now he's disgusted with himself and blah blah. Well, he's not as disgusted as I am. I'm pregnant with his kid and I love him but trying to have sex with him is futile because it makes me physically sick and all I can think about is that he screwed a guy and made promises to a man that he made to me. My hormones are raging, I have an active libido and I really need to have sex. Is it unreasonable for me to ask for an open relationship so I can satisfy my physical desires?

Replies(7)

CarolineEF

replied on October 30th, 2009

Moderator (online)

If you guys can't make it together, then why not part company?....Maybe he was high?...So he made a mistake...If you love him and possibly trust him, have him tested and go from there...How long has this relationship with the other man been going on?...What does he want out of this?...These are the questions that you have to ask yourself before you proceed with your life....IMO, the most important thing is the child that is waiting to be born and not the two of your sex lives...

Caroline

spanishfly

replied on October 30th, 2009

New User

Thanks for responding Caroline. You help a lot of people. This post and null and void now though because I had a miscarriage two days ago and I'm sure you can imagine my plummeted desire to have sex with anyone.

CarolineEF

replied on October 30th, 2009

Moderator (online)

Thank you for your kind words and best of luck....

Caroline

bo21

replied on October 30th, 2009

Experienced User

Wonderful guidance Caroline!
spanishfly, You intercated that this is your boyfriend and not your husband. You need to think real hard before you commit your life to a man who also are known to have sex with men as well as women! You need to think about your future, do you want a future with a bisexual or not? Just be careful in your decission making!
Wish you well. bo21!!!!

W0LF

replied on November 1st, 2009

Extremely eHealthy (online)

spanishfly
Why do you want to be involved with people who disgust you personally? It seems very unhealthy for you to continue to try to have a relationship with this guy. Your feelings may change about him over time but trying to hold onto the man you used to love while trying not to deal with whom he has become is a recipe for disaster.
The world is packed with men who don't disgust you. Move onward.

J3nnyuk

replied on November 1st, 2009

Moderator

Am sorry for your loss spanishfly...i agree with the above posters you need to find someone whos attention is firmly on you and no one else...There will be someone out there...Jenny

foxy_lady

replied on November 4th, 2009

New User

I think if you find it disgusting that your man has sex with other men, then leave. It's not fair on him to be made to feel bad about who he is and ultimately, if you stay, you will only make him resent you in the long run. For my part, I fell in love with a bi guy and though at first I wasn't sure about it, I quickly found it turned me on... now I actually prefer bi guys, straight guys are boring...

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