We got married a little over a year ago. He cheated on me repeatedly and I still kept forgiving him and taking him back. He went to jail in late September right after he got me pregnant. I stood by him thru it all and he was there for statutory rape. He was sleeping with a 16 year old, mind u he is 32. I stood by him I paid a lawyer 10,000 to beat his case. He got out in late January we celebrated our anniversary, we celebrated having a son on the way. And then last week he up and left no reason at all. He left me in the worst possible position. I can't work on bed rest due to complications. I spent my savings on his lawyer. And am now just screwed. The problem is I still want him to come back. All I do is cry. I can't eat, I can't sleep. How do I stop loving him. My other child is extremely attached to him he's the only "dad" she has ever known he has been in our life for over 3 years now. How do I make this hurt go away?????
You should tell your child the truth. Say that her dad left and you don't know if he s going to come back. She won't be happy at first but over time that feeling will decrease and she will have to except that chapter in her life. I recommend you do the same. Just except it as a chapter in you life. Certainly you can't just stop loving him. You need to move on. He is gone now and there is a possibility he isn't coming back. Right now is the time to be with your child and your soon to be born one.
Time to defend your child and other children from that predator. Get the state involved. Have them find him and make him pay to support your child. If you can't do that for your child, you are as worthless as he is.
do not go back to that man. thoes great love feelings will die down and go away.
that guy was a sponge "he soaked everything out of you". this man has showed you so many red flags. your life will be so peaceful w/o him. if you go back to him, he's going to do things that will bring you down. and in the end it will kill you inside dealing with someone like that. just b/c of love your out of $10k.
i was with a guy that sponge everything out of me. i lost at least $40k, had to live in a shelter and start my whole life over again. so let that be a lesson learned and move on. even if he does come around to see his baby, dont allow him to take anything else from you.
some guys who have a criminal record says that it's hard for them to find a job.
I know that no matter; what I or anyone will say, will not get rid of the pain you're feeling at this moment, but maybe reading my story will help. On the other hand i want you to sit there and think, who do i love more than anything in the world?.. im guessing the answer is your kids. What he done to YOU and now THEM, should never have an excuse, cheated? prison? left you? now you're crying? and who's hurting the most? your little ones. Your world. I know that i can say you deserve better, someone that will treat you right, but to you he is your everything.. trust me, i understand.. but you have to think about the BAD more than the GOOD, and in time the pain will go away... you will learn how to live on your own, without all the stress, and hopefully without the tears. Good Luck babe x