i think his ex probably gave him "something" to keep him interested in her. you may be able to figure out what that is.
also, i think he's kind of messing with you. you seem like a sweet person, and i bet you are. you're worth having a guy who's crazy about you. this guy with the ex girlfriend is probably not the right guy. focus instead on another guy who doesn't have the ex girlfriend and one who is REALLY into you.
if a guy turns me down, he's DONE in my mind. i'm not rude, or anything at all to him, but i don't hug him and i don't act overly friendly with him either. i go find another guy. i think you should do the same. you need to be careful here...if your friends know that he broke up with you, they are watching how you'll react to him. if you are reacting to him in a way that appears weak or needy, then your friends (and the other guys) will take notice of that and assume that you have a low self-esteem. whether or not this is true, you need to plan how ppl see you and what their impressions of you are. make sure that you always present yourself to people in such a way that will cause them to hold you in high regard and respect you.
if you'd like to discuss this with me, feel free to pm me. i'll be glad to help.
jasmine