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H9
January 27th, 2012
me and my boyfriend we're togather like one year and one month and we really loved each other , he loves me so much and am his first love , we were like the perfect two but i have a problem that when am angry i dont control myself and i start shouting and say bad things to him and hurt him so much , he told me change this thing but i dont listen to him , many times we're like we gonna leave each other beacuse of this problem but i alwayz told him am gonna change but i dont , he gave me like million chance to change but i dont . that day we fight and i start chouting and he'se like its over i cant take it anymore and i love you but we're not meant to be togather so i leave him without say anything to him for like 2 days but then my friends saw him with a guy and two girls so i get crazy i started to talk to him and try to fix everything but he's like no i cant . every single day i send him a massege that plz i want you and i love and i've changed but he's like no you will never change . that day i talked to him and then he said ok lets try am gonna give you a chance and he said beacuse i love you but for one day he was ok with me but then he dont answer only after 1 hour or more and i asked him why you do this he's like i cant am sry i cant and i was shoked i told him please try me i love you and atleast let me see you and talk to you face to face , first he said ok but then he;s like no i dont love anymore and i loved from all my heart but you broke my heart maybe i made you a better person but now am not a good person beacuse of you and he's like please go i dont want you and i dont love you but now i didint talk to him for like 5 days but i really love him and am sure he loves me two ! i dont knw what to do i really want him so bad !!! i'll do anything just to bring him back i really love him so much and i cant live without him
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Justaguy1988
replied February 9th, 2012
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Well it's really up to him at this point. I promise you that begging him to come back will not help anyone. Maybe he'll change his mind someday but it's very important for you to assume that he won't and move on. I suggest you take his advice to heart. Maybe you have changed. Maybe you made yourself a better person trying to please him. Apply your new self to a new partner. There is never only one person out there for you.
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H9
replied February 10th, 2012
but i really love him and am trying and trying to move on but i cant !! the day before yesterday i asked him , there's no way for us? and he's like no and he called me yesterday and he's like please if you love me dont call or text or anything and he said that no way that he can love me the way that he loved me before....am really tired am really really tired and i dont know wat to do...he's gonna come back or not? please help me ...
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H9
replied February 10th, 2012
but i really love him and am trying and trying to move on but i cant !! the day before yesterday i asked him , there's no way for us? and he's like no and he called me yesterday and he's like please if you love me dont call or text or anything and he said that no way that he can love me the way that he loved me before....am really tired am really really tired and i dont know wat to do...he's gonna come back or not? please help me ...
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Justaguy1988
replied February 10th, 2012
Experienced User
No, he's not gonna come back. Sometimes people lose the ones they love. It's not uncommon at all. And it's always very difficult to move on. One thing that comes into play is wanting what we can't have. The more he pulls away the more you want him. You have to realize how harmful that sort of thinking can be to yourself.

You seem dependent on his affection for your happiness and that needs to change. I think you may have low self esteem. A good cure would be to start dating again. My preferred method of dating is online through Plenty of Fish, but you might prefer meeting people at singles bars or other hangout spots. I think you would benefit from seeing how much your company can be desired.
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H9
replied February 10th, 2012
i tried but i dont know i dont want anyone else ...i just want him...its been one month and 3 weeks and am triying to get him back by crying, calling,texting and bla bla ...now am gonna try to leave him away for one month ...but dont you think that if he really loved me he would come back?! cuz he's dating many girls now just to forget me and move on ...i dont know ...
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Justaguy1988
replied February 10th, 2012
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I know how you feel. Sometimes a person can seem like they're perfect for you, but they're really not. Him rejecting you alone makes him not perfect. You've convinced yourself that you want him so badly that all you can see are the good things about him. There are surely many things about him that you wouldn't like at all if you only knew.

Believe him when he says he doesn't love you and move on.
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H9
replied February 11th, 2012
maybe..but how could you know that he dont love me anymore? cuz no one can hate someone or stop loving someone so fast !!! but yeah am gonna try my best to move on ...am not gonna call or text him again...but all the other guyz told me that he only need some time to forget bad thing that i made and start missing me and that the guyz dont forget their first love and alwayz come back ...
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Justaguy1988
replied February 11th, 2012
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Well of course I don't know, but it's best to assume he doesn't love you anymore and you said that he told you he didn't.

Even if there is a chance of you two getting back together, your best bet for doing that is to have him see that you're getting involved with other people. The jealousy factor might kick in. So any way you look at it, the thing you need to do is move on.
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