Ok, this is going to be long, so I'm sorry in advance!

My ex bf and I were dating for almost a year. We had been planning to move into an apartment together. Well, we had some arguments here and there, but we would make up and be fine again, nothing too serious. So, 2 weeks before we're supposed to move in we get into a fight, but then we make up the next day. But then, he avoided me for a week and then broke up with me. I was shocked and devasted, it was out of nowhere! Well, I was crying and asking him to reconsider, but I said I couldn't make him stay. So he left.

Three weeks pass where we didn't contact each other, except that he texted me a couple of times with empty conversation like how's work. Then, he called me, and he sounded terrible. He again did some empty chit chat and I was acting cool and calm, because I want to work things out with him eventually. So, he says he wants to get the deposit back from the apartment complex, to which I replied, ok I'll leave that to you to take care of. He also said he wanted to meet up to exchange our stuff and I suggested we have lunch the following week and exchange it then. He says he'll check his work schedule and let me know.

Then, two days later, I accidentally run into him on campus, and he looked a mess! He is the kind of guy who is drug free, not a heavy drinker, and always keeps himself looking polished. This day he looked awful, like he rolled out of bed and went to school like that. Well, I talked to him again acting cool, and he basically said the same things with the same dead voice telling me he'll let me know if he can exchange our stuff that day.

So then today, he texts me about the apartment deposit. He didn't call them or anything, he just wanted to show up and ask for the money back. So I texted him with the phone number so he could talk to them. Turns out they wouldn't return our deposit for reasons he did. He texted me with a vague response so I called him for more elaboration. Anyway, he then says while we're talking that the only thing left is to exchange our stuff, and I said, well, are you still up for today like I suggested? And he says no, he's hanging out with his best friend.

I guess the thing is I'll be okay with the break up, but it's like he doesn't want to let go. Like he's avoiding talking to me or seeing me, yet going on and on about his stuff. It's like if you want your stuff come and get it! And, I have suspicions that he's logging onto my facebook and emails to see what I've been up to. I want to know what the heck is going on? Is he thinking of getting back together or not? I want to get back together again, but I can't understand what's happening!