Risk for getting HSV-infection from your partner is 10%. Until anti-herpes vaccine is commercially approved by FDA the best way you can conceive with man that has genital herpes, without being infected in the same time, is to use some of the assisted reproductive techniques like insemination or "in vitro"-fertilization. If you get infected for the first time during the pregnancy chances for fetal infection are 50%. HSV can cause fetal damage if infect the fetus.

Is your husband on suppressive therapy like the once daily valtrex? If so then taking daily medication can lower his risk of giving it to you by 70%

So you can have unprotected sex with him to become pregnant but there still is a chance that you could get it. Have you spoke with your doctor about this? Maybe you can also take suppressive therapy. It could lower your chance of getting herpes, but please do not take my word for this. YOU SHOULD see a doctor before you take any medication.

May I ask why you are worried about getting it? If you are married and about to have children will it matter that much? Its a pain in ass sometimes but having genital herpes really isnt that bad and it isnt as big a risk to unborn children as everyone thinks

i've had it for 25 years and had two perfectly healthy children vaginally.

Do you guys feel depressed when you have an outbreak? I do, and it seems that I am having more frequent outbreaks after having sex with my boyfriend. He knows about my condition, and we have unprotected sex. I take L-Lysine instead of Valtrex because it used to make me nauseous. I am also on the pill. I do have concerns about transferring it to him, but he doesn't seem to mind. I wanted to use condoms, but he doesn't. I just still get depressed when I have an outbreak and I find that I pull away from him and am too embarrassed to tell him that I am having an outbreak. I just stay away until it passes.

Yes it still happens to me even though I have had it for 7 years. Its hard. I still feel guilty about it and a little dirty I guess. Like its a punishment or something. And there are times when I just accept it and it doesnt bother me at all. I think the thing that makes it easy for me is to talk to my hubby about it. I tell him when I have an outbreak and I am very open about it with him. It makes me feel like Im not so alone. Of course we dont have sex then but he never fails to try and make me feel sexy and beautiful during this time. He seems to become more loving. Trust me this feels so much better than dealing with it all alone.

I suggest talking to your BF about it and trying to be intimate without sex during the outbreak. Cuddle or kiss and massage. It can be frustrating cause you cant have sex but it really brings you closer. Your BF sounds like he loves you no matter what so I dont think he will have a problem.

I think you feel the way you do cause you deal with it alone, try to open up. It feels weird at first and its not easy but it will bring you closer together. Just remember that he ALREADY accepted you and the herpes. He loves you. Focus on that when you have doubts.

As for the condoms....My hubby is the same he wont wear condoms. We also have unprotected sex. He got it after we were together for 1 yr. He has yet to have another outbreak and its been 2 years. We dont take medication, we are just careful not to pass it back and forth. its a nasty part of our lives but we have learned to make the best of it.

if i have a kid and i want to have the baby just regular than can the baby get it or will i have to have a C-section
-Angela-

I live in south africa has hpv and hsv 1 im scared because i dont think anyone here has it so how would i tell someone people here dont know about this stuff. plz reply