Hi Dora,
I am currently 29, and I live in Houston, Texas. I had scoliosis surgery to correct a severe lower-back curvature when I was 14. Since that time I have had 3 more major back surgeries. The first operation was considered a mandatory operation because of the severity and location of the curve, and I had worn one of those gigantic back braces for a majority of the previous year and the curve only got worse. I am fused from T4-L4 with 2 rods, screws, and hooks. I did well until I turned 20. The discs in L4-L5 and L5-S1 began to become unstable under the strain of the fusion. Even though I am petite (5''2'''' and 105 lbs.), the nerves down my legs have been pinched for the last 9 years now (in spite of the major 3 operations that I have had after the hardware has been put in place.) I have been trying to avoid an anterior-posterior fusion to my pelvis (fusing the remainder of my lower spine to my pelvis with a front and back fusion). I am very scare for many reasons. I have been all over the country looking for help for my pain, and I have had some very rare complications from my 4 surgeries. I don''t know how I have managed to finish law school. I don''t take pain meds, but I don''t know how I do it. I do pilates. I go to work. But the chronic pain is so, so hard. However, because of these 4 surgeries, I have had nerve damage to my bladder and bowel. I am lucky that I found surgeons to correct my resulting prolapsed bowel, prolapsed bladder, and prolapsed uterus. For a few years after my surgery, I could sense my bladder being full, but I had to push so hard to empty my bowels and bladder that I prolapsed all of it. I had to self-cath for a few years until I found an excellent uro-gynecologist and colorectal surgeon. I have been very humbled. Many people who know me as this "cute lawyer" have no idea that for a few years I struggled with bowel incontinence or self-cathing after these surgeries. It is so odd how I "passed" as a "normal" person - yet I had some different experiences going on. Now that I have fixed these problems, I am hesitant to go under the knife again - to have an operation that may make me worse or bring back these awful symptoms. I am going to see a new doctor - I found him online (he''s in St. Louis).
But my case is very, very, very unusual. You should get some opinions and see what your options are, Dora. Every patient is different, and the more opinions you get, the better. And if the doctor is a jerk or is not understanding, there are always other doctors to see. There are caring souls practicing out there - you just need to get recs and do research and keep looking - and keep faith.
Let me know if I can help!!
Sincerely,
Lauren