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Q: Hardest decisions in the world!
asked by: kamikazee on May 9th, 2008
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Help! My boyfriend of 8-9 years kicked me out Monday. He has known for a few weeks I was pregnant and wants me to get an abortion. We have never fought soooooo hard EVER! Well he told me if I am keeping it to get out and he will never speak a breath to me or our baby. I was not supposed to have kids and I ended up pregnant in NOvember with a miscarriage. I was on birth control both times (for better monthly aunt flo's). We have lived together for 7 years? maybe and have two wonderful dogs that we considered our children. We both agreed we did not want kids but when you can't have them it's easier to agree. He tells me I lied to him and he hates me for ruining his life. I left Monday and still have not talked. He won't let me see our dogs and well all of our friends have turned there backs on me and they think its funny he kicked me out cause of it. That is just not fair! I hate him. But thats the life I know and I have nothing now. I sleep in a bed and live out of my garbage bags full of clothes at my mothers atleast. How do I ever get over this and am I being selfish just like he says? He wants an abortion soooo bad! Thats all he says. Also I found out he is talking to an old coworker that he used to drool over. But she has 2 kids. What the heck!!? I thought we had a great relationship. Also he is taki9ng lots of time off and planning all these vacations- that was our time! I am so disgusted and heartbroken and confused. I can't eat, sleep, or even drink, and well smoking was almost gone until this happened now I am smoking more! Please help. I am scared and need to know the best decision. I do not think he will come back. Confused scared Crying or Very sad Mad
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love_pinkish
replied on May 9th, 2008
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well do u want to keep the baby?
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kamikazee
replied on May 9th, 2008
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Do I wanna keep it?
I very much want to be excited but it's hard to keep hope when your so down. I went to a counselor clinic yesterday and they told me all my options. I have thought about it. Then I saw it on the ultrasound and it was jumping and kicking and rolling over. That made my heart melt and I figure I cannot do something like that to get rid of it. But I still am not ready to go through this alone. I have no choice now as I am in my 2nd trimester. Why can't he understand I am TOO FAR ALONG to do something like that. If I was like 6 weeks or so yes- but thats a baby in there. Not a mass of cells. I am so confused. I don't wanna do this alone.
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love_pinkish
replied on May 9th, 2008
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I understand that and it could be very scary. You just have to take it day by day and things will get better. Maybe he'll come around, maybe he's just to furious about it. Things may settle with him. I wish he could understand that it's not the end of the world, it's a new beginning for the both of you.
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kissofangel20
replied on May 14th, 2008
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Sorry
That's a really hard place to be in...but please don't think of abortion as your only option. There is always adoption if you feel you can't do this on your own. And honey he isn't worth it. Move on with your life and the right guy will eventually come along. Happens when you least expect it. If you want to talk anymore just mesg. me! Good luck!
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eeyore46
replied on May 14th, 2008
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After reading your post, there is no way you can give this baby up. He is a very selfish person, and if he loved you, he would not be treating you like this. You are going to be a wonderful mother. There are all kinds of financial help for you and your baby. Don't do something you will regret later in life! Congratulations sweetie, best thing that will ever happen to you. Not only are you having a little one, but you got to see the REAL side of a selfish boyfriend. Even if you did have an aboption, or give it up for adoption, he may not come back. He sounds like a very selfish, "ME" person. Someone above wanted you to be a mother even though the odds were against you. And............."your friends" they are not true friends or they would not be treating you this way. Be strong - this is a little miracle from above. When is the baby due? How old are you? PM me if you need help! How does your family feel about this? Are they supportive toward you? Do you know the sex? We can't tell what the future holds, but hopefully, you will meet someone who loves you and will be a great father to your child. Again, congratulations this should be a very exciting time in your life.
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catalina.
replied on June 16th, 2008
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I am in a similar situation! i am now 7-8 weeks pregnant and i found out 3 weeks ago! i have been with my bf 4 years and we are/were really good! when i first told him i was pregnant he was shocked,but straight away started to say how he will get a better job so we can have more money for the baby! sounds good,then he goes home and talks to his mom,the next thing he dosent want the baby,isnt really bothered about me anymore,and is only really intrested if i get it aborted!!!!

I also didnt think i could have children! and although its not yours or my fault my bf is sort of blaiming me for it! i just keep telling him that it didnt get there on its own!

I just think alot of men need to do some serious growing up!
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