Hardest decisions in the world! Posted: 05-09-08 12:01pm
Help! My boyfriend of 8-9 years kicked me
out Monday. He has known for a few weeks I
was pregnant and wants me to get an
abortion. We have never fought soooooo
hard EVER! Well he told me if I am keeping
it to get out and he will never speak a
breath to me or our baby. I was not
supposed to have kids and I ended up
pregnant in NOvember with a miscarriage. I
was on birth control both times (for
better monthly aunt flo's). We have lived
together for 7 years? maybe and have two
wonderful dogs that we considered our
children. We both agreed we did not want
kids but when you can't have them it's
easier to agree. He tells me I lied to him
and he hates me for ruining his life. I
left Monday and still have not talked. He
won't let me see our dogs and well all of
our friends have turned there backs on me
and they think its funny he kicked me out
cause of it. That is just not fair! I hate
him. But thats the life I know and I have
nothing now. I sleep in a bed and live out
of my garbage bags full of clothes at my
mothers atleast. How do I ever get over
this and am I being selfish just like he
says? He wants an abortion soooo bad!
Thats all he says. Also I found out he is
talking to an old coworker that he used to
drool over. But she has 2 kids. What the
heck!!? I thought we had a great
relationship. Also he is taki9ng lots of
time off and planning all these vacations-
that was our time! I am so disgusted and
heartbroken and confused. I can't eat,
sleep, or even drink, and well smoking was
almost gone until this happened now I am
smoking more! Please help. I am scared and
need to know the best decision. I do not
think he will come back.
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love_pinkish
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Posted: 05-09-08 13:01pm
well do u want to keep the baby?
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kamikazee
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Do I wanna keep it? Posted: 05-09-08 13:42pm
I very much want to be excited but it's
hard to keep hope when your so down. I
went to a counselor clinic yesterday and
they told me all my options. I have
thought about it. Then I saw it on the
ultrasound and it was jumping and kicking
and rolling over. That made my heart melt
and I figure I cannot do something like
that to get rid of it. But I still am not
ready to go through this alone. I have no
choice now as I am in my 2nd trimester.
Why can't he understand I am TOO FAR ALONG
to do something like that. If I was like 6
weeks or so yes- but thats a baby in
there. Not a mass of cells. I am so
confused. I don't wanna do this alone.
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love_pinkish
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Posted: 05-09-08 21:03pm
I understand that and it could be very
scary. You just have to take it day by
day and things will get better. Maybe
he'll come around, maybe he's just to
furious about it. Things may settle with
him. I wish he could understand that it's
not the end of the world, it's a new
beginning for the both of you.
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kissofangel20
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Sorry Posted: 05-14-08 20:35pm
That's a really hard place to be in...but
please don't think of abortion as your
only option. There is always adoption if
you feel you can't do this on your own.
And honey he isn't worth it. Move on with
your life and the right guy will
eventually come along. Happens when you
least expect it. If you want to talk
anymore just mesg. me! Good luck!
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eeyore46
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Posted: 05-14-08 20:55pm
After reading your post, there is no way
you can give this baby up. He is a very
selfish person, and if he loved you, he
would not be treating you like this. You
are going to be a wonderful mother. There
are all kinds of financial help for you
and your baby. Don't do something you
will regret later in life! Congratulations
sweetie, best thing that will ever happen
to you. Not only are you having a little
one, but you got to see the REAL side of a
selfish boyfriend. Even if you did have
an aboption, or give it up for adoption,
he may not come back. He sounds like a
very selfish, "ME" person. Someone above
wanted you to be a mother even though the
odds were against you.
And............."your friends" they are
not true friends or they would not be
treating you this way. Be strong - this
is a little miracle from above. When is
the baby due? How old are you? PM me if
you need help! How does your family feel
about this? Are they supportive toward
you? Do you know the sex? We can't tell
what the future holds, but hopefully, you
will meet someone who loves you and will
be a great father to your child. Again,
congratulations this should be a very
exciting time in your life.
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catalina.
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Joined: 02 Jan 2008 Posts: 38 Location: , england
Posted: 06-16-08 14:58pm
I am in a similar situation! i am now 7-8
weeks pregnant and i found out 3 weeks
ago! i have been with my bf 4 years and we
are/were really good! when i first told
him i was pregnant he was shocked,but
straight away started to say how he will
get a better job so we can have more money
for the baby! sounds good,then he goes
home and talks to his mom,the next thing
he dosent want the baby,isnt really
bothered about me anymore,and is only
really intrested if i get it aborted!!!!
I also didnt think i could have children!
and although its not yours or my fault my
bf is sort of blaiming me for it! i just
keep telling him that it didnt get there
on its own!
I just think alot of men need to do some
serious growing up!
