I think I have worked myself up after reading all of these post medical stories. I had been super careful for this not to happen in the ten years since my son was born. I have to finish school this year and am just in no position to handle this right now. I would have opted for a surgical, but I live in one of hte least populated states where they are only offered one day a week and there is a long waiting list. I hate this fear.

Well, as I'm sure you've discovered now, there is no discernible fetus to speak of in the tissue that's expelled during a medical abortion. Here in the states they will not allow medical abortions after 8 weeks into the pregnancy, and at said point, it'd be extremely rare to be able to tell which of the blood clots shed contained the embryonic sac, it's not particularly large, maybe a bit more than a half-inch long. Some of the clots many women pass with a medical abortion would be the size of golf balls to the size of lemons, the chances you'd spot the actual embryo in all of that are very very slim.

I've just had one (yesterday) and there was no way of telling which of the blood clots was a fetus even though I really tried so basically it was disposed of the same as everything else. Do you think it could still have been alive at that point?? It's something that has been driving me crazy since I first made the decision but was too scared to ask my doctor...

No. The first pills you take interfere with the pregnancy so it ends at that stage. The second pills are given to expel the poc.