Hi, I am 37 years old and very sexually active. Unfortunately I have never experienced an inner-vaginal orgasm, only clitoral. Recently I was with a younger gentleman that I am very attracted to and have had amazing sex with twice before He is bigger than I am use to, about 8", but it does not hurt or cause discomfort, it actually feels great! The last time I was with him I gushed A LOT of fluid out of my vagina which has never happened to me before. Barely a wet spot here and there, but nothing like this. It was a steady warm stream of fluid for about 30 seconds and it looked like someone had poured 2 bottles of water on my bed! It was exciting, but at no time in our 40 minute experience, did I feel any type of build up, climax, or orgasmic feeling, before during or after the gushing. After the big gush, I did gush one more time during our same experience, but not as much. Is it possible that I had an orgasm but didn't feel it? Everything I read about gushing relates it to orgasms. I am sad to even think that that was my big orgasmic encounter and I felt nothing. Please help ! Thank you for your time!
This is not a very popular subject/answer. As soon as you separate porn from science, people gets upset.
Female ejaculation is possible without orgasm and very frequently this is the way it occurs during studies on female ejaculation.
Ejaculation and gushing is however not the same thing.
Both comes from your urethra (pee hole), NOT the vagina. Gushing fluid like this can come from only one place, the bladder. There is absolutely nothing in your body that can produce this much fluid out of nothing in that short a time - not blood, not tears, not saliva, not arousal fluid, not milk, not urine, not sweat, not PSA (prostrate fluid). So this fluid must be stored somewhere and then released over a short period of time. The only place where this can happen is in the bladder. There are some theories that claim that this is a special fluid with less urine. This makes some sense and probably at the very least partly true. Research is however sketchy on what the gushing fluid can be. Ejaculation - no problem, it contains mainly PSA fluid from the female prostrate and Skene's glands.
The most likely explanation is that it is urine or a very thinned down urine produced during sexual stimulation and arousal. The bladder is the one organ that can 'manufacture' fluid fairly quickly. So either stress incontinence or stress being placed on the bladder and the sphincter cause this fluid to then gush out. This will most often happen when the front wall of the vagina is stimulated, penetration happens in a direction that put pressure on the front wall or a large man or toy is used.
With age and child birth, the sphincter closing the bladder also weakens and kegel exercises are strongly recommended to help with this. Emptying the bladder just before sex can also help.
As you said, this provided you both with a lot of pleasure. Unfortunately you did not reach orgasm during this but next time you just might. Embrace whatever this was as a normal part of your sexual response and chemistry with this man.
Thank you so much for your quick reply!! My only question to your response, is that I am almost 100% sure that the fluid did not come out of my pee hole, because out of shock of what was happening, I stopped and looked down, as did he, while it was still pouring out because my first fear was that I was peeing, but he thought I was having an orgasm. And it was not squirting out, just a slow steady stream. It also had no scent of pee at all. It actually smelled like my "sex scent" I call it, from inside me. Is it impossible to have the fluid from my bladder come out of the vagina? Thank you susan862003! I really appreciate your response.
Mmmm, it is thought that in some women the Skene's glands also open up into the vagina. There are however no research about it, only a few women reporting what you are reporting.
After 37 years you would think that you will know if there is some anatomical problem there.
I suppose it is possible that you had a build- up of your arousal fluid, his pre-ejaculate fluid and cervical mucus. When you are close to ovulation, these fluids can increase a lot.
There are also claims that, at least in some women, there is an "a spot" in the top end of the vagina. When the a-spot is stimulated, excessive lubrication takes place. As your friend is well endowed, it might just be that he is hitting this area and you gush. This A-spot is either in front or behind where the cervix enters the vagina. It might thus just happen in certain positions.
Unless you suspect that something is wrong and you are happy with your sexual health, I do not think that there are any reason to worry about this.