SupaBlonde, I bet your partner thinks he is superman when you give him the display? Most men will accept this as a part of sex and will try to get you to gush. It is normally us women that are embarrassed and ashamed of it.
Does this happen in every position, does it happen when you orgasm during masturbation? Does it happen from orgasms during fingering or oral sex?
Your bladder and the bladder's sphincter that keeps the urine inside can take a lot of abuse during sex. When you orgasm, the muscles and your sphincter can experience contractions. It is thus very possible that it is coming from your bladder as there is no other place to store or manufacture that amount of fluid on demand. Female ejaculate comes from the same glands that male ejaculate comes from. During the embryonic stage, this forms what we know as the g-spot and men know as the prostrate. It is thus to be expected that female ejaculation will be more like male ejaculation in volume. Women are also encouraged to bear down when orgasming to increase the probability of ejaculation and women does not have a mechanism that stops urination during sex like men have.
There is a chance that everything coming out of your bladder during orgasm is not urine. Some researchers think that ejaculate from your female prostate/g-spot/skene's glands can push up into your bladder. The bladder can also secrete a cleaner watery fluid, possibly during high arousal. So the theory is that gushing comes from this fluid build-up.
Cut down your fluid intake before sexy time, go and urinate before you get fully into sex, do it in the shower/bath or use a bed protector AND DO YOUR KEGEL exercises - every day.
Whatever you do, do not let this wonderful and unique thing spoil your experience of sex. Your partner enjoys it, so why would you not enjoy giving it to him?
I have had some women partners that did not squirt much, they got wet but much, my wife is a squirter. She is worries about it when I am doing oral, I think it makes me feel I did my lover a favor, a free gift, something I never refuse to do.
the same thing happens to me. I thought I was alone but another thing is that I take vitamin B and it turns urine yellow and this is never yellow. It is not something you can control. It feels great but I don't know if my boyfriend likes it.
There are two fluids that can come from your pee hole during sex and masturbation:
Female prostrate/G-Spot/Skene's glands fluid. Typically this is clear or milky, sweet tasting and can be a few teaspoons full.
Urine from the bladder: The bladder can fail to close properly when you orgasm or get contractions through your pelvic floor. Fingering of the front wall of the vagina or thrusting at an angle can put further pressure on this muscle to make it open up. If you follow the advice to just let go and push out during orgasm, the chance is good that at least some urine will be voided from your bladder. If you get a "wet spot" when you cough, sneeze, laugh or strain yourself, chances are good that you will also "leak" during sex.
A third option is that fluid from the female prostrate/G-Spot/Skene's glands push back into your bladder during arousal and sex. The bladder might even be secreting a clear fluid unlike urine during this time. During orgasm, this will gush out. Some proponents of this theory calls it the "beer piss syndrome" after some observations made on bladder functions after drinking a lot of beer.
Whatever this is, do not let it affect your sexual performance. It is natural and women have been doing it for the longest time. Men are normally very pleased that they can give you so much pleasure that you squirt/ejaculate/gush/ooze. So if it does not bother your partner, do not worry about it.
You can take certain precautions like voiding your bladder right before intercourse, cutting down fluid intake before intercourse, using a mattress pad and old blankets and towels, having sex on the floor, in the bathroom or shower.
Just enjoy it for what it is, a sign of sexual pleasure and stop worrying about it.
Ok - so this is something that has started happening with my wife. We've been married for 8 years, and this only started happening within the last year.
I can say without a doubt, this is not urine - and regardless of my wife not drinking fluids, going to the bathroom before sex or any other ways you could think of to avoid this, it still happens.
The main point I wanted to make here is that I think its misleading telling people that by exercising or going to the bathroom will make this stop, because that implies that you are doing something wrong in order for this to happen in the first place.
long_beach_husband, If a cup or more of fluid suddenly gush out of your wife's mouth, you will most certainly not argue that it is her saliva glands that suddenly produced that much saliva all at once. It must clearly come from the closest fluid store connected to her mouth - her stomach.
The same goes for female gushing. It is physiologically impossible for that much fluid to be produced out of thin air in such a short period of time anywhere in the human body. If it is anything more than a teaspoon or two of fluid, it is from her bladder.
Thanks to modern radiological studies (MRI, CAT and ultrasound) of couples having sex and masturbating women, the bladder can be seen filling up in a very short period of time during arousal, there is only one question left: is it urine, another fluid or a mixture of fluids. No other fluid or fluid store can be observed anywhere in her pelvic region, only in her bladder.
Even Dr Beverly Whipple, which are widely credited with the naming of the G-Spot and much of the hype around female ejaculation research was a co-author of a paper on orgasms in Feb 2008 with the following statement:
"Stimulation of the hypogastric nerve probably occurs also during uterine contractions at orgasm and during stimulation of the G Spot, a component of which are the Skeneâs glands, considered to be a homologue in women of the prostate gland. Ejaculation of a fluid (usually 3â5 ml â approximately one teaspoonful) from the urethra in women, which is chemically different from urine (Belzer et al., 1984), is reported to originate from the female prostate gland (Zaviacic, 1999)."
Dr Perry, which was the other researcher with Dr Whipple postulated the 'Beer Piss Theory' stating that the fluid is coming from the bladder but might be different in composition to urine (or at the very least a clear and diluted urine.
"The most controversial aspect of the discoveries about female ejaculation concerns the volume of fluids sometimes claimed, or even photographed and videotaped. Many professionals have been unable to find these large-volume ejaculations credible, especially in the light of the relatively small mass of the glands that comprise the Skene's glands (also known as paraurethral glands or female prostate). At the very least, they argue, the female glands should not be credited with producing any more, and probably less, fluid than the corresponding male glands."
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"in every case, the amount of ejaculation would best be described as "less than a thimble-full", sometimes MUCH less, and never the copious amounts shown in recent films."
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"One hypothesis is that women are being trained to release "beer piss", either in addition to OR instead of ejaculation.
In summary, there now appears to be three kinds of fluid that women may expel during sexual activity:
(1) ordinary urination (large volume, yellow color)
(2) female ejaculation (small volume, colorless)
(3) "beer piss" (large volume, also colorless)
And combining (2) and (3) leads to a fourth option:
(4) ejaculation mixed with "beer piss" (large volume, colorless)
The proof - provided by Schubach's research - that women can produce "beer piss" (just like men) goes a long way towards resolving the skepticism that many scientists had about female ejaculation in the early 1980s. After all, most skeptics did not challenge the presence of acid phosphatase and glucose in ejaculation specimens, but they did reject the large volumes of fluid reported"
There is a reason why research into female gushing was abandoned in the late 1990's without any conclusions. The theory that gushing was just an extreme form of female ejaculation could not be proven.
So it does not matter who or what you like to believe about female gushing, the fluid can only come from her bladder. The only question remaining is how does it get there (in other words, does arousal change the composition and process in the liver and bladder). There seems to be some indication that it does, as you yourself state here.
Does this make her orgasms, your enjoyment of her sexual response any less or any less valid? Definitely not and it should not do so. Gushing is connected to intense sexual pleasure and should be enjoyed by both partners.
Yep, do this too.. I hate it, men love it. Thanks for all of the input on this topic though because I was a little skeptical as to whether this was pee. I say though, that if it felt this good to pee, I'd never leave the toilet. lol We're normal.