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Grounded for 8 weeks so far for grades.

Im 14 years old and got myself grounded for a ridiculous and hypocritical reason. Now, this reason was bad grades and my parents have told me they wouldnt ground me for bad grades. I was failing by 3 points on my report card and have been grounded until i can bring up my grade. it has been 8 weeks and finals are coming up, so ive been focusing on that not doing makeup homeworks and classwork grades (4% and 6%-10%). It has been 8 WEEKS now and im failing by even more than before and i think its from the stress of trying to juggle the grades with the finals and being grounded itself is aggravating and somewhat stressful. How do i get my parents to lift it?
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replied November 29th, 2011
I'm a mom and I have kids your age. My 13yr daughter got an F in 2 classes and I grounded her too. I asked her if failing was due to the hard subject and she said no. She told me she failed because she chose not to turn in her homework. In her school, final grade cannot be greater than homework grade. Since she got an F in homework, it doesn't matter what her final exam grade was.

She too is grounded until her grade goes up. All my children attends an accelerated school which teaches 2 grade level higher than public schools. She has 4 hours of homework every day and even on weekends. She is smart and I know she can do the work if she wants to.

So ask yourself, are you failing because you were not trying or is the subject hard to understand? If it's due to laziness, then suck it up and do your work, but if it's because you don't understand the subject, then ask your parents to get you some tutor help or afterschool help from your teachers. Good grades only come from hard work.

I don't expect my kids to get straight A's. I only expect them to try their hardest. If they try their hardest and still get a "D", then that is fine, but if they didn't try and get a "D", then they better be ready to suffer the consequence.

This is the advice and question I ask my kids. Do you want to be the waiter at a expensive restaurant or the customer sitting and being served at the expensive restaurant. If chose to be the customer, then you better work hard on your education. If your satisfied with being the waiter, most likely, you will regret it when you turn 30.

I suggest you do some soul searching and then talk to your parents. Sorry for being such a mom.
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replied December 20th, 2011
Hi. Firstly I will explain my point of view on your situation

I am 15 years old and I think this is totally unfair, your parents should not be grounding you for trying your best. I can understand your parents grounding you for slacking off and not doing your work, however if you are honestly trying hard and doing your best then your parents need to lay off a bit. No one deserves to be grounded for trying their best.

Now I will tell you what to do.

Firstly:If you are failing some of your classes because you do not understand the material then ask your parents to hire you a tutor. Trust me this will help you a lot and if they refuse respectfully tell them that they are your parents and their job is to help you.

Secondly: I will tell you the best strategy to get ungrounded. Start off by studying really hard and making sure that your parents see that you are trying and they might unground you by themselves if not have a mature converstion with your parents when they are in a good mood and explain to them that you are doing your best and grounding you for bad grades will not automatically make the grades go up. If this does not work start helping out with household chores, this will show your parents that you are responsible. Doing the dishes, taking out the trash and cleaning up the house also if you have younger siblings clean up after them as well.

If your parents are really stubborn or are asian than this probably wont work but it is worth a shot.

Good luck.
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