I have been with the same partner for about 4 years in an open relationship. We both travel and have sent months apart, but seem to connect right away and move in with each other when we reconnect. The bond I feel with this man is like nothing I have felt before. I have been half a world away from him and still will stare at the moon telling him how much I love him and I know we will meet again.
We currently have a lease together until the end of July. We were living together and have a business together. Things were getting too intense for us, and we decided to take a break and still both be financially responsible for the house and the business. While on break I met a man when teaching kids and he asked me out. I accepted. About a week later I found out I was pregnant. This man that I met cares a great deal for me. He wants to me there for me and be a good father. I have concerns though because the past couple weeks we have not been getting along. He has been going to the bar after work and forgetting plans that we have made to go for hikes or hangout. So I have been honest with myself and realize that I am sill deeply in love with my partner. We see each other nearly everyday, work together, make food together, watch movies together, we talk about anything on our minds. We do not though, stay together. I have been sleeping by myself in the midst of the confusion I have created for myself. He is leaving and moving to another town when the lease is up at the end of July. The father of my child however, has family in town and has offered for me to move into a 2bd condo that they own with him. My problem is I dont know how I can live with this man if I am not in love with him? I dont want to be sad or stressed/ heartbroken over my partner leaving and just try to start a new life with this man that I barely know.
i really want to do what is best for the baby. but with the father''s behavior lately with the bar scene and canceling our plans, I can say as a to-be mother I do not know if that is what is best for the baby. I am deciding now whether to start selling some of my belongings so that I will have some extra money when the baby arrives, or to move into the condo with this man I barely know and am not sure about and if it my best go in creating a relationship that right now doesnt exist.
ps. we are all in our mid-twenties.
thanks for listening. any advice, words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated.
The family of the father now know about the baby. They didnt until I kept pressing the issue, and the father told them. I have talked to my on again-off again partner about the baby, but I feel there are bitter feelings toward the father, and it is better when I dont mention it. He is though supportive of me and asks me food/heatlh/ weight gain quite often so he knows how I am doing. He still wants to move to the city and live with his brother and will not let me stay with him. As of now, I am planning on selling some things for extra income and moving to someplace warm and beautiful so I can be in an amazing place of peace and beauty when it is time for the baby to be born. I am right now just accepting that my partner wont be in my life after a few more months1