you shouldnt take a babies life my sis was in the same situation at 18 trying to have an abortion and luckily she change her mind now she lives happily with her 7 month old daughter whithout the babyfather

candiibaby,
first off this is your decision.
do not let someone else's opinion or belief effect the choice you make.
this is a very hard thing to do, decide whether to keep, abort or put a child up for adoption.
and whatever choice YOU decide, will be the best one because you are thinking about what is best for yourself at the moment and this potential life.

have you told anyone that your pregnant, like your mom..dad..sister..school counsellor?
if you have not, you should do this really soon. and tell an adult, not a friend.
do you think that you could afford to raise a child right now at 18?
do you have your own place, savings, have you finished school, can you afford health care for yourself and a baby, can you afford rent, the essential needs for a child?
these are all important questions to ask yourself right now, because these things are all very important and crucial to a child's life. if you cannot afford to provide for yourself, how can you provide for a child?

this guy you are with right now, does not sound like someone you should waste time over, i would not be worrying about his childish ways at the moment now, there are other important things to focus on.

lastly, there are other options that abortion.
you could have the baby, and arrange for a couple to adopt the child, and you could have an open adoption and recieve updates on how the baby is doing, that way this child has a better life, and a life at that, and you gave a desperate couple a beautiful gift, a child to call their own.

this is a big situation, and you need to take action now, the sooner you get this out in the open with your family, the sooner you can sort out what your next step is going to be.

but remember, this is your decision.
no one can force you to do anything that you dont want to do, and whatever the choice you make, it will be best because you made it. dont let anyone guilt you into the choice you make.

im 19, i got pregnant at 18 not planned.
i could afford to have this child, my boyfriend supported me and still is with me, we have a place, pay rent, my boyfriend switched jobs to make more money to provide for our child, a 3am-3pm job. its really hard, but we make it work.
but if we did not first off have savings and all put aside we would in no way be able to afford this.
its hard work, but can be done, but know that there are other options out there hun.

if you need to talk PM me anytime.

You are scared and rightly so. You found yourself in a predicament. My question, if your boyfriend wasn't being a jerk would you want the baby then? You have many decisions to make and you need a support group. Proudmommy mentioned have you told anyone about your situation obviously other than your boyfriend? Your anger at your boyfriend needs to be put aside right now. Do not do anything you might possibly regret because you acted out against him. Gather your options. You do have alternative solutions. Ultimately the decision is yours. I am here if you want to talk.

Give your baby up for adoption then. I envy you actually. I have been trying to have a baby for a long time and everytime I get pregnant, I have a miscarriage. Giving your baby up for adoption can make some else very very happy.
The decision is ultimately yours, all I am saying is think about it for a while, you may change your mind all together and decide to keep it.

dianajmz09,

How are you doing? Have you talked to an adult that can help support you in whatever decision you decide to make?

The key here is that is your decision to make and no one else's. It is your body, your life, your future that is involved.

You need to think about the possible choices you have, discuss them with someone who will be totally objective and listen to you as you try and talk about all the possibilities and then make the decision yourself.

You should not be listening to anyone that tells you what to do, whether it is here on this forum or anywhere else.

And members, please, none of us should be telling dianajmz09 what to do. None of us have the right to tell her what to do, no matter how we personally feel about abortion or not.

Just because we believe a certain way, does not give any of us the right to tell her to do as we believe.

Good luck, dianajmz09, and you can PM me if you would like to talk to someone that will just plain listen to you and not tell you what to do.

Fran