I'm not per-say a care-giver...except for on this site

But in terms of my personality, I have difficulty receiving sometimes ... I feel kinda guilty if you know what I mean...

The giving is to the other side...I tend to give too much and allow others to walk over me...but I enjoy helping others and giving of my self.

I am more of a giver than receiver. I have a tough time accepting help myself. So I understand how many of the the elderly feel when they come to that point in their life, some of them tell me how tough it is to give up that independence.

Seraph

I understand how you feel with the guilt but as people tell me and I've even said this...We wouldn't do it if we didn't care plus we want to do help and be there. It's in our nature to care as it's in their nature. Unfortunately we all are going to need help at some point in our lives. I'm on both ends right now with my declining health but I'm still trying to take care of others.

Heh...tell me about it...

I always thaught I would have to prepare my self to take care of my parents when they reach that "certain" age... At this point, it seems more likely that my sister would have to do that...and maybe even help me from time to time.

But...bleh, I shouldn't think like that. No one can say for certain what lies ahead...

I know at least that I am now prepared in the sense of knowing how "helpless" one can feel at times.

Like the old worn out saying goes..."Nothing happens without a reason".

i give--down to the very last drop of life i have in me. I work myself to death for my guys. When something is given to me i am eternally greatful. if you help me you end up with my heart and ill do anything for you .