hey sorry to hear about this but how old is your ex? and was she like this only when she started taking wellbutrin? Jenny

she was 18 and she was never a cold person. she was very emotional before the wellbutrin, now she is saying i cant even be her friend cause i talked to one of her friends about something private. she says shes the happiest shes ever been in her life WITHOUT me and that she doesnt care if its selfish.

well am very sorry to say this i know it is painful for you but it sounds to me that she is just a horrible person that she was using you when she didn't have the medication and now she feeling better she moved on to some other guy, all i can say is she couldn't of loved you much in the first place if she can move on that quick and then be horrible to you like this when all you have done is love and care for her, my advice is just let go i know it will be hard but try your best because it seems like she just gonna keep saying horrible things to you to put you down good luck Jenny

at least you found out now rather than later! , thank ur god for wellbutrin! she could have killed u in ur sleep! she may also have multiple personality disorder thing! you never judge a book by it's cover,feel sorry for her future lovers don't you?

Well there's another part to the story, she did do this once before last year when she WASN'T on medication. We're long distance, right, and she is younger, and still in high school, she turned down guys left and right to stay faithful to me, a guy that could only talk to her on MSN or the phone, so I think her love really was real. But last year she ended it and went back with her ex-boyfriend, she said she just wanted to live her life while she was in high school and not be tied down to a long distance relationship, and I can sort of even understand where she was coming from. She did let me down very gently but after a while treated me kind of like "get over it" back then also, but when it comes to heartache I am an EXTREMELY emotional needy and I can't stress this enough; OBSESSIVE, I ask question after question after question and it wore on her nerves to the point that she didn't even want to talk to me anymore. She DID try to be my friend both times she ended it, but I couldn't be myself, all I could do was obsess over what happened and it pushed her further and further away. When that relationship didn't pan out she came back and said she knew she loved me all along, she was just being young and living a bit.

This time she actually kind of admitted that most of the reason she ended it was to
"live her life" while she's young, and she was jealous of her girlfriends all having boyfriends in high school and stuff. And again, I can see where she is coming from. Me and her have an immense amount of things in common, we hit it off from day one and were best friends and in love not even a month or so later and it did last a year and a half despite the one time she went back with her ex. So this is my thinking and maybe it's wishful thinking, but to me it seems like she really does love me, but it's hard for her to be in high school and not live the typical high school romance life from time to time so she drops me once in a while and knows whenever she wants I will take her back because of how desperately pathetic I act when I'm in heartache. So yeah, I think she loves me and sees a long term future with me, but is a bit cruel and drops me sometimes to fulfill her high school life needs. And she had left the door open saying she still wants to meet and see what happens and that she can't predict the future, but she's just living in now.

When she said the other day that she doesn't even want to talk to me ever again, it was because I sent private conversations with her to a friend and that was a screw up on my part.

Thoughts?

you should have consulted her first about the intimate relationships between you and her did she find out? that is a trust issue if she did it wouldn't surprise me that she didn't want to talk to you , you built up all that trust with her for the whole year and threw it away, just say u screwed up and if there's any chance in the future if she want's to etc. she did trust to tell u that she was with the other guys so that was a big deal. just my oppinion.

Take a look at this situation from the outside in. Take your emotions out of it and try a new perspective about how you've been acting and the way you see her in your life.

She's young man. She has no idea what she wants in her life at the moment, her personal identity is not even close to being formed, and no matter how much she tries to explain to you how she feels about you or herself, it's very likely she doesn't even know right now.

It's incredibly important that you allow her space and also respect and support her moving on with her life if you want to keep her around. If you continue to ruminate over her decision to stop being as intimate with you as in the past, you'll almost certainly lose her continuing friendship.

You're 22 years old and expecting "love" and making long term plans in your mind without realizing that at such a young age it is impossible to do this. You have to look at relationships as impermanent at this age. There are no guarantees, nothing. You have no control over this and quite frankly its a huge turnoff for women to feel that you're being as needy and emotionally unstable about things.

Get your life together as best you can vocationally and inter-personally on your own without her and keep an eye out for new opportunities. If she comes back, fine, but don't take that as her "loving you forever" blah blah

There are no guarantees, nothing. You have no control over this and quite frankly its a huge turnoff for women to feel that you're being as needy and emotionally unstable about things.