She could just have a high sex drive, some of us do.

You may want to sit down with her and have a heart to heart conversation that you want to slow things down and get to know each other better, other than sex.

~Zig

I find myself wondering if you are recovering from a broken heart, why are you getting so involved with a woman sexually? She has deep feelings for you because you have given her the impression that she is something special....She sounds to me like she is trying to do everything to please you....She wants to be all that she can be so that you care for her.....

Nowadays being a woman is not the easiest thing in the world....They read what a man wants and try to be all to him that they can be....You obviously are a very attractive man so IMO, she is trying to make you like her....Personally, I think that people jump in bed way too early in a relationship to start....But that is me.....

Be careful on what you say.....I understand your viewpoint on this, as healing a broken heart does take time.....But be kind in the words you speak to her....It could be mistaken as being called "too forward"...

Take care,
Caroline

try to explain it to her the same way you did here - that you are still recovering from your past hurts - i'm sure she will understand you!
you might need to remind her - but you should definitely be more open to her on this!

I may be old fashioned, but I find it hard accepting a man that is bedding me down telling me to "take it slow....I am still in mourning....my old lover is still alive and on my mind"....

I would wonder who he was making love to....Was he making love to me with her in the back of his mind?....I would wonder if this was a "threesome" in bed with us and I didn't know it?....

Just my thoughts,
Caroline

i'm with caroline on this one. something isn't adding up to me. let's see. if you're actually really still broken hearted over the loss of your prior relationship, then why are you even seeing anyone else?

if you "explained" to me that you were still hung up on your ex and you wanted to take it slow with me, it doesn't make me feel like a prostitute, it just means that you need to go try to patch things up with your ex.

your girlfriend "should" want to turn you on, an "ideal" woman would be wanting you practically all the time! i think the real issue here is that you just aren't into her that much and you're not telling her that, so you're leading her on.

the prostitute reference really doesn't make me happy either. a woman who is sexually expressive with her boyfriend isn't a prostitute in any way. you shouldn't make a woman who is giving you her best feel like she is wrong for doing so.

it just seems to me that this is a mismatch of a relationship because you want your ex-g/f back and not this new girl. my advice is don't make her feel bad about it if you're head isn't all together.

jasmine

Maybe what you are looking for at this time is just a friend and not necessarily and girlfriend in the relationship sense. If you are not ready to have a full relationship, that's okay, but you should explain that to her so that she understands that you are looking for female companionship and not a committed romantic/intimate relationship. Hopefully she will understand and treat your friendship as such, but you need to be preparecd for the fact that she may move on to find someone who wants what she wants. You need to evaluate what you are looking for at this time in your life. Friendship/Companion/Romance.

I know that this sounds like a lot of platitudes but its my 2 cents.

Wendy

yeh i agree with furrytail on this have a think 1st before you decided to talk to her about it good luck Jenny

remember if you decide to talk you may risk her going to the next guy? do you love her is it worth it take it slow , whatever still let her do you , luck is already with you !

i agree with furrytail. maybe you're not really looking for a girlfriend. What you need is someone to comfort you, to share you buts and ifs...to ask about what went wrong and who's to blame. a girlfriend is not the right person to have at this time since it will be so unfair for the both of you.

Also "recovering from a borken heart" is not the right term when you are in a new relationship. When we say recovering, even as a child, you'll have an impression that you're still weak due to an illness andthat you are still not allowed to go out and play.

its the same as with a relationship. Maybe the best thing to do is to try to lick your own wound. try to have a short vacation for you to have some space to think it over. A place where nothing can remind you of your former girlfriend. i know it would be hard and it'll take a long time, but that's the way it goes.

how are you and your current girlfriend doing now? girls love sex, for some (including me) its my way of being comfortable with a guy. if i want to know the man that i love deeply, i'll make love with him. And gosh...we make love for the sake of making love. and if you call it "hornyness" too bad for us. But i think that's what your girl wants.. to know you better as a person.

if you want to bring out the seriousness out of her, try to bring her to some place where you and her can talk, like a coffee shop or a park where you can share your future together (maybe a park with family playing together scenery). this could trigger her share her ideas with you. And mind you if she can't stop mentioning your name in whatever topic you talk about.....i can say she's so into you.

Just be true to yourself friend..
again..
recovering goes in 2 ways. either you find a way to help yourself heal your wound, or you let your wound take over you and later on become another disease...hahahahhaa

Goodluck on your healing process friend,

Sincerely yours,
guinevere