have you tried talking to him about this? i had a similar situation when my current boyfriend and i first started dating..i was actually away at college and had come home one weekend to spend time with him..this girl..seriously was blowing up his phone..they were classmates but she was driving me INSANE...we were out to dinner and were supposed to go to some friends place to chill/drink..well, apparently SHE was going there too..she knew he had a gf...maybe she didn't know i was in town but I was gonna make sure she did by the end of the night...she called..and called..and called...i told my bf if he answers that phone again I'll pick it up and give her an earfull..thats incredibly RUDE and annoying..i haven't seen my bf for THREE weeks and you're blowing up the phone?! huh uh hunny...haha...anyway, he told her to leave him alone and she didn't say a word to him at the party...there were no suspicions of him cheating or anything, but the girl i swear...could not take a HINT....ANYWAY...my whole point is my problem solved itself eventually..while it took her dumb self alittle longer than expected she did finally get the hint and began to back off...however, your problem seems to continue...are there suspiciouns of him cheating? you should talk to him..tell him it gets to you, you're not sure why, it just does..and you would appreciate it if he a)be honest with you and b) kindly tell the girl to back off alittle bit..if he loves you he'll take that to heart...if not...do you really want to waste your time worrying all the time?

sorry its SO long

the thing i forgot to mention was he rarely uses his personal phone (which is the one she txt him to) he.ll turn it on maybe 4 times a month to see if any creditors or what ever has called him. he doesnt use it everyday like his work phone which he has on 24 hrs a day. he knew this chik back in college and they and she hadnt moved away at the time so she kept insisting they hangout etc. and one of his txt sounded like he was annoyed cause he said "weve had this conversation before". and she kept insisting. so i confronted him about it and he said she knew about him and i, that she moved to another state and that she had kids and was married. i really just want to politely tell her to stop inviting my guy out for drinks cause im his girlfriend. and he said he said all that but that he was playing around.

we had barely started living together so i dont kno if he did it cause he wasnt used to living with anyone and wanted to feel some sort of freedom? the thing that does put me a lil at ease is he never has ASKED her to hang out, he.ll be like whatever yea lets kick it, but he never uses that phone. shes very insistant so if i keep noticing this i.ll just tel him straight out, either he tells her the truth and stop dragging her along or i.ll do it

well you know, I did have a really close guy from back in college too, this post makes it sound more like shes just wanting to catch up with him, when I read the first of your posts I thought that she was texting ALL the time(since you know her number by heart) and was pushing to hang out all the time...i could see how it might bug you but I wouldn't get too upset about it, especially if he isn't on his phone all the time....my boyfriend has a girl that he's known since kindergarten I think..they dated very shortly and every once in a blue moon he'll get a text from her asking to hang out or something...but he never follows through with it..so...I mean, honestly if it REALLY bothers you that much..just talk to him and ask him for honesty..it doesn't sound to me like he's too interested in her and it doesn't sound like he's that interested in following through with plans, if he were going to grab a drink with her and really wanted to..dont you think he would have by now?

Why don't you send her a text telling her that. I would.

worrywart01 your right, but what irks me is the fact that if she is still asking him to hang out, she still thinks hes single and that means he lied to me when he told me she knew of him and i being together. all i wanted to do was send her a txt letting her know who i was and that i really would appreciate it if she would stop trying to go out with my boyfriend. nothing menacing lol and i mean ewww shes married, got 2 kids...she has no self respect. unless my boyfriend was liening about that too and she really isnt married and with kids. im talking to him right now about it i.ll keep you guys posted

if shes asking him to hang out that doesn't mean she thinks hes single...how does that mean she thinks hes single?...shes probably just an old friend wanting to catch up honestly, especially if shes married with 2 kids...
that would bug me though if your boyfriend lied about it in the first place...that just makes it a bigger deal than it needed to be
good luck

well i talked to him yesterday, and he had told me she was married,kids,husband the works lol turns out shes not technically married(shes been with her guy so long she might as well be married he says) she doesnt have any kids (but her boyfriend does) and she does live in another state..but not the state he had told me about(he sayd austin and now he says oregon) so...right now im reevaluating the trust i had in him. i told him all i really want is honesty, be real with me dont bull****. so im sorta not talking to him right now, things feel so tense at home. he came home quiet and feeling bad cause he lied, but honestly i would have appreciated the truth instead of a lie to calm me down. but i honestly dont care, best thing i think is let him mull over it for a while so he sees its not cool.

i even told him some of my guy friend want to hang out with me and they ALL know i have a boyfriend but i dont go out out of respect to him.

well hopefully things work out with you guys..and if he's lying then stop wasting your time you know?

Something like this happened to me. I called the girl, emailed her, and texted her telling her to back off... never to receive a reply. She hasn't contacted him since though. I confronted him about it and he said he didn't think I would have a problem with him talking to her and hanging out with her when I was at work and he wasn't and "Baby, do you really think I would cheat on you?". After I said what I had to say, he understood where I was coming from and how I felt like he was sneaking around because he never even mentioned her name to me. I mean, if it had been me texting and hanging out with another guy without telling him, I know he would have been just as upset, if not even more upset than I was.

I decided to tell her off first because I had a feeling if I asked him to stop texting her and hanging out with her, he wouldn't actually tell her why he couldn't hang out or talk, so I figeured what better way to end it? Let her know how pissed I was when I found out, so she understands my side of it.

some girls really dont give a rats butt if theres a girlfriend involved or not and they still pursue the guy for some unknown reason..I really REALLY cannot understand that...like..do you think you're Gods gift from heaven or something and he wont cheat on you? WRONG...if your "that girl" that he cheats on his gf with, there will be another that he will cheat on you with..and soon Karma will come back and bite you in the butt...this happened to one of my girlfriends..she caught her boyfriend hanging out with some 17 year old chick(when the guy is 23 and "ready to settle down) ..they talked things out he BEGGED her for forgiveness and said he wasn't into her..the girl kept pursuing him, he did nothing to stop it and evetually he left my friend for that girl....complete fool..yea, let me leave my girlfriend of over a year to jump back into another high school relationship...what a loser..eh..shes better off without him, he was a jerk

some girls really dont give a rats butt if theres a girlfriend involved or not and they still pursue the guy for some unknown reason..I really REALLY cannot understand that...like..do you think you're Gods gift from heaven or something and he wont cheat on you? WRONG...if your "that girl" that he cheats on his gf with, there will be another that he will cheat on you with..and soon Karma will come back and bite you in the butt...this happened to one of my girlfriends..she caught her boyfriend hanging out with some 17 year old chick(when the guy is 23 and "ready to settle down) ..they talked things out he BEGGED her for forgiveness and said he wasn't into her..the girl kept pursuing him, he did nothing to stop it and evetually he left my friend for that girl....complete fool..yea, let me leave my girlfriend of over a year to jump back into another high school relationship...what a loser..eh..shes better off without him, he was a jerk