This is my first post on the site. I'm not entirely sure what I'm looking to accomplish, but I'm getting sort of desperate and need to vent out.
I've dealt with heartbreak before, numerous times, but I'm starting to get tired of it. I hate feeling this way constantly.
I'm one of those people that can fall for a girl fast, and then constantly over-analyze and over-think every detail of our conversations or texts(shouldn't have took psych classes ). It's ruined a few relationships in the past, and it just ruined another one yesterday. I'm hoping I can still salvage the relationship, but I think I scared her off. The worst part of all this is that I -know- it was my fault -- if I didn't act the way I did, we'd be hanging out right now and I'd be as happy as ever.
I just don't really know what to do. It's gotten to the point where I'm planning on talking to a counselor so I can hopefully get some self-esteem back and put this over-analytical BS behind me.
i hope im not going to speak out of place but if you think talking to someone will help you you should, it doesnt have to be a counselor you could go to a friend or family member or im sure i could always listern to you.
dont blame everything on your self it will only make you feel worse. y do you think you scared her off.
You sound a lot like me. I over-analyse. I go over every little detail and dwell on the smallest things. Like "if only I had......." then we would still be together. I actually have a degree in psychology and it's a double-edged sword. It helps with some understanding, but it also adds to the over-analysis.
I fall fast too. Women just seem to get into my inner core. With the boys, I'm the leader. My mates all know each other through me, we get together at my place, and basically if we go out, or stay in, it's my call. Yet with women, I am putty. They say jump - I say how high.
I'm 40, live in Australia and have been in love with 5 women, and had my heart broken 5 times. I'm a week or so into the 5th break-up. And despite my past experiences where I have gotten through it, and ultimately been glad for the experience - I once again feel that I have entered a black hole from which there is no return.
Counsellors can help if you find the right one, but they are expensive (and you need a male - females just don't think like us). I have just purchased an on-line thing which I would be happy to share. Alcohol helps for about 2 hours - but then I get that desperation to the point where I had to give my ar keys to someone to stop me from going to see her, losing my license or possibly killing or injuring myself or some poor third party. I do feel good about admitting that cos when I have had a few, I become impulsive.
So dude, I have never written a blog or whatever this is before. But your story sounded like I had written it. And sometimes just writing it can help - as this has helped me a bit now. So if there is any advice I can give, or you can give me, it just may help. If you are thinking of her every waking minute, and have her intruding your dreams, you're not alone. If only science could find a way to erase just her from your memory,