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getting pregnant with PCOS Posted: 04-03-08 12:22pm
ok i have PCOS polycystic ovarian syndrom,
and I was wondering what I can do to help
me get pregnant... I know there has to be
some meds out there to help... but also,
what can i get thats covered under
insurance and does insurance tell my mom
what meds i have, and have gotten...
I will be over 18 when i start trying, in
about or a lil less than a year... but i
will still be under my moms insurence, and
do not want her to know i am trying, i see
that it is NONE of her business what me
and my fiance, [husband in a year] will be
doing...
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Maresci
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Posted: 04-03-08 16:25pm
I think it is her business since you are
still being taken care of to some extent
by her. Why not wait until you are more
stable with your finances and relationship
and try then? I am sure your future child
would appreciate it.
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lagringarican787
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Posted: 04-03-08 17:12pm
no the only thing she is doing to take
care of me is that im on her insurence
plan till im out or of college... other
than were very stable... we have our own
house that were moving into in december..
and were going to start trying next spring
or end of winter....
not to be mean... but all i want is a
answer, because you obviously do not know
me or my life.... [[i really didnt mean
that in a mean way though i know it
sounded like it but its not! ]]
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lagringarican787
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Posted: 04-03-08 17:14pm
oh and just to clear things up , we WILL
be married when we start trying!
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Maresci
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Posted: 04-03-08 17:56pm
I did say to some extent. Insurance is
not cheap. Also, why not wait until you
are out of school? Babies are expensive.
I may not know you but i do know that
rasing a child is not easy. Why make it
harder on yourself when you are just
starting out on your marriage and still in
college?
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coliejo
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Posted: 04-03-08 18:06pm
If you are married is the insurance going
to cover you, most companies drop you when
something like that happens
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lagringarican787
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Posted: 04-03-08 18:07pm
but pregnant or not, its not costing her
any more or less money... so its doesnt
bother her, and i kno it is hard and i
know it is expensive , i have the money
and im prepared to have the
responsibility ... I have a quite a bit of
medical problems and 3 doctors have told
me the younger i am the better chance i
will have of gettin pregnant... me and my
fiance have been discussing this for a
year and feel its rite for us, but
seriously, this has nothing to do with my
question..... how hard is it to juss
get some MEDICAL answers here without
being lectured by people that do not know
you .... im not trying to sound mean but
all I want is answers, not a lecture =[
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coliejo
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Posted: 04-03-08 18:10pm
I dont know if you were talking baout me
or not, but i was not lecturing, i was
just asking because i know alot of
companies will do that, sorry if you felt
like I was lecturing, i wasn't
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Posted: 04-03-08 18:38pm
I am sorry if you feel like you're being
lectured, but in away its true. IF you
have the money to raise a child and go to
college and buy a house. I would suggest
to use the money to get insurance when
you're out of school and have the baby
then?
I guess all I am saying is. Try to get
your education first, because I am sure
you haven't saved up for 18 years of a
childs life.. Which could cost millions.
Also ENJOY your wedding, and your husband.
While you're together.. Spend time being
husband and wife Enjoy your time
with him and when everything is settle
then try.
As far as the PCOS goes. I am not sur eof
your diet or health, but it took my
boyfriend and I over 3 years to get
pergnant. I am 24 and am SOO NOT READY!!!
Actually you're probbaly more prepared
than me. I am just stating the ideal what
I wish I had did. Anyway, it has taken 3
years and its an extreamly high risk
pregnany. I spend alot of time in the
hospital bleeding etc. So, prepare
yourself mentally for what you're about to
get into. My doctor said that its the PCOS
that has caused all of my complications.
Anyway, we just did it naturally for 3 1/2
years and then I got pregnant. Now I am 16
weeks. You can do it.. Its your choice..
Just reallllllllllly think about it!
Good luck and keep us updated!!
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Maresci
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Posted: 04-03-08 18:57pm
I understand the urge to have a baby. I
also understand how it feels to be told
you are too young. I am 20 and getting
married soon. Many people think it will
fail but that is their opinion, but also,
I will be out of college and I already
support myself COMPLETELY as it is.
Please think about it for awhile.
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Posted: 04-03-08 20:41pm
Well Insurance would tell what meds and
what doctors you have been to since you
are still under your moms insurance. Your
mom would have the right to look up all
doctors appointments you have had and all
medications you have been prescribed.
It sounds like you are trying to hide
something from your parents. Is that what
your intentions are? If that is the case,
I dont think what you are doing is fair to
them since they are paying for your
medical care.
I think that if you and your future
husband are ready for a baby, then you are
ready to take care of your own insurance
and not have to worry about weather or not
your mom finds out about it.
What are you going to do when the baby is
born? Are you going to expect to be on
your parents insurance with the new baby?
How is that fair?
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lagringarican787
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Posted: 04-03-08 21:08pm
actually i know it sounds weird, but we
have enough for our house payment and to
support us and a baby... but the extra few
hundred a mounth of insurance would be
tough and unnecessary when i can get
insurance untill i am out of college... im
actualy on my dads plan, which i just
realized, not my moms, and my dad is a
fireman, so it comes with his job, why not
get free insurance if possible, 1 or 2
hundred a mounth can be very helpful for
the baby instead of the insurance...
and the firemans insurance keeps me on
untill im 21 or out of college no matter
what... meaning if i get married that wont
change.
ALSO we are starting to try next winter or
spring, expecting not to get pregnant rite
away... if we do get pregnant rite away,
we will be prepared, but were hoping to
get pregnant in the fall or late summer...
oh and since i was 10 ive been around
babies and little kids... honestly when im
not taking care or around kids/babies i
feel empty... same with my fiance, thats
why we have decieded we want a baby so
soon, other than medical problems .... we
definitely agreed on this and feel its
rite for us and our sitution
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coliejo
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Posted: 04-03-08 21:11pm
But, like I said before you are most
likely going ot get kicked off the
insurance policy when you get married,
your paretns are not considered your
supporters anymore
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lagringarican787
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Posted: 04-03-08 21:26pm
no , i said up there, on my dads i stay on
married or not untill im 21 or out of
college...
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coliejo
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Posted: 04-03-08 21:27pm
i have never heard of an insurance working
like that, i guess it is good for you
though
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lagringarican787
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Posted: 04-03-08 21:35pm
idk thats what my mom told me because my
sister got married at 20, and was in
college and her insurance stayed till she
was 22 but they just had to prove she was
still in college...
me and my fiance are on the phone
discussing this now, hes a lil bummed that
it might take a few years to have a lil
one =[
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Posted: 04-03-08 21:38pm
I agree, I dont think that you will be
able to stay on if you get married. Have
you really checked that out or are you
assuming?
So, is your dad's firemans insurance free
for him? Or does he have to pay a
premium? Chances are, he has to pay for
you to have you on his insurance. Even if
he is a paid fireman that works for the
county and the county pays for the
employees insurance (which a lot of
couties do) you have to pay extra for
family members. So he would be paying for
you to be on his insurance.
Also then, if you are not paying for your
own insurance, then once the baby comes
and you are saving the money from the
insurance and spending it on the baby,
then who is going to pay for the babies
insurance? You father's insurance WILL NOT
pay for YOUR babies insuance.
What does your fiance do, why cant he get
family insuance through his company.
If you are responsible to have a baby,
then you are responsible enough to pay for
your own insurance and not expect your
parents to pay for your medical bills just
because it is free money for you
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coliejo
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Posted: 04-03-08 21:43pm
If you feel you could not afford the
insurance, you could always look into like
a medicaid program or something for when
you do become pregnant, too.
I do agree with star though, you might say
you are ready to handle a baby and take
care of it, but if you canot provide
insurance for it, you may not be as ready
as you think.
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Maresci
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Posted: 04-03-08 21:58pm
You are allowed to stay on as long as you
can be claimed as a dependent. Legally
(federal standards) after you are married
they can no longer claim you as a
dependent and therefor you would not be on
their insurance plan.
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Posted: 04-03-08 22:25pm
I also have PCOS.
My husband and I tried to get pregnant for
over 2 years with nothing to help (thats
before I found out that I had PCOS) so
then we decided to go and see a doctor. So
my doctor put me on Clomid 50mg with no
success and then she put me on higher dose
of Clomid 100mg and that didn't work for
me.. so I went back and she put me back on
Clomid again with 150mg and that didn't
work for me..I didn't even ovulate dose 3
time I was on Clomid....I remember I was
so upset with everything.
Then I went in for the last time to see my
doctor and I told her that this is my last
time trying out fertility drugs. (cause it
didn't help me) So my doctor puts me back
on Clomid 50mg WITH low dose Metformin
this time and guess what? it helped me I
got pregnant with one try and now I'm
28wks and 3day with a little girl. I went
thew all the pain waiting to have a child
of my own. it's all worth it!
And about that insurance. My husband has
really good insurance and his insurance
did NOT cover for my fertility drugs
prescriptions. his insurance only covered
my doctors visits and hospital visits.
We wanted to get pregnant so bad that we
didn't care how much money we would spend
on prescriptions and fertility drugs.
But just to let you know. they are not
that expensive.
Good luck sweety with everything!!!!
I hope God Blesses you like he blessed us!
:0)
Enjoy your time
with him and when everything is settle
then try.
