My husband was diagnosed with ADD at 5 years old. He is now 28. He has been on and off ritalin since age 5.
We got married in June of 2008 and in July he started taking Adderall. We were starting up a business together and really needed him to focus. I didn't know at the time he had never been on adderal. I also didn't know the reason he was on an off ritalin was because he didn't like the way it made him feel. If I would have had that info I may have not been so hasty to agree that he try adderall.
It's been 2.5 years now and he started smoking weed to compensate for some side effects the adderall was causing him, depression, ect. Well, this isn't ok with me, and please don't let this turn into a debate about marijuana because thats not my point. He was lying to me and generally being nothing like the man I married. So we are getting him off all drugs since the adderall was causing him all these side effects I knew nothing of at the time. I should also mention he is going cold turkey here. Perhaps thats also causing issues as well as getting off any drug like that is hard. If he were to ween, is there a suggested way of doing that, like how much he should take per day to ween off to make the transition into normal life again easier
He has been off the adderall for almost a week and hasn't smoked anything in a few days. He has a really hard time communicating what he is going through or what its like to come off of this stuff. I just have no idea how to handle any of it. I want to help him but I have no idea how.
He says he can't force himself to get out of bed in the morning and he plays video games late into the night. His sleep schedule is insane right now which I know doesn't help. We are both self employed and almost into our off season so he doesn't have a job he is responsible for going to. So he just lays around. If I knew this was just a short phase everyone goes through trying to get off of it when they have been on it for years it might help me. See, it's hard because I am super motivated. It's not easy for me to get up and work for 10-12 hours everyday but I can see the outcome and it pushes me forward. It's so hard for me because I just can't understand how he doesn't see things like that. I don't understand how he can't force himself to be responsible and push through this or at least try to start learning ways to cope. I know I probably sound harsh, but thats only because I really don't understand anything of what he is going through.
Being on it for 3 years, how long would you say it should take to get off of it and start getting back into learning how to live life without it? I know learning to cope with be a life long journey, but I am mostly wondering about right now. If he will be lethargic and be in bed till 2pm every day for the next 6 months or something.
For those of you who have done this, what was your experience like? How did you get back to living again? What are some good coping skills you have learned along the way?
I want to help him. I want to be patient and just show him love in this time when things are hard but it's just so difficult to do when he can't seem to communicate so I'm just guessing whats going on.
Thank you so much for your time and any insight you are able to give.