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Q: Getting into a relationship help

asked by: Finnick on August 25th, 2009

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I've never really had a boyfriend, since I can't seem to make a relationship work. I'm 17 years old, and there is someone I'm interested in, and I don't want the same thing to happen that's happened every other time. Pretty much I can make a relationship last for 3 weeks, tops. Which sounds really bad, but I honestly just freak out. I can't explain it, but I pull away from whoever it is..stop talking to them, until they confront me about it and decide it's not gonna work out. Every time. Could this have anything to do with my anxiety and how much I worry? Any suggestions on how to stop doing this? I really like this guy, and I would love it if I could make it work. I don't want to be stuck single forever because I can't commit.

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breck08

replied on August 25th, 2009

Supporter

Sweetie you are just 17 and you are still growing and maturing into womanhood. You probably didn't know what you wanted so past relationships could have been a result from that. You like this guy? You want it to work out? Well start with the like. Be yourself and just let things happen naturally. Don't push a relationship. Why did you feel like you needed to escape in your previous relationships? I wouldn't worry about the "commit" part right now. If it gets to that point with this guy then cross that bridge then. In the mean time you can have a friend you enjoy being around and someone that enjoys your company.

ServiceU

replied on August 29th, 2009

Supporter

you have a problem with anxiety and it is effecting the relationships you get into. i suggest you see a therapist, thing about getting on medication to control your anxiety and talk to a therapist about your situation.
this may break the cycle you feel as though your in.
have you been though anything traumatic in your life?

Finnick

replied on August 30th, 2009

New User

Thanks for your answers!
I haven't been through anything traumatic that I can remember in my life...I've just always had problems getting close to people. Even with just friends it's a problem sometimes.

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