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Getting away from parents

Im 15 very soon to be 16 n i live in Illinois. I honestly need to get away from my parents. It sounds really stereotypical of a teenage thing to say, but i cant live with them anymore. No, they didnt take my tv away or some dumb stuff like that. Theyve driven me into a depression thats lasted 2 years and led me to attempt suicide on 3 separate occasions. They compare me to other people when im not performing to their standards but when i use other people as examples they claim they dont care about what other people do (such as when one friend studies for 4 hours a night while i only have time to study for 2 and i get a C and so did the rest of the class). they constantly hold their academics over my head, even though they got a's in easy classes and im in ap/honors junior classes as a sophomore. I get all a's some B and one c and i get told that if i dont make the B grades into a's theyre gonna sell my instruments. I live for music, i intend on majoring in it in college (much to their discontent) and they constantly threaten to take me out of orchestra and cancel my music lessons and stop me from giving lessons and make me quit my job. My dad screams at me for everything i do wrong, but god forbid i say he does anything wrong. Any word i say is an "argument" and i get screamed at for it, so i dont talk anymore. i found i get in less trouble if i just sit quietly and take it rather then try to defend myself. My dad has literally told me "my comfort comes before yours. im more important, this is my house and my rules." he's also told me "your teachers made me feel like im not a good parent for not pushing you harder, so from now on everything you do will be monitored until it is certain that it is perfect." I could go on but id be here all night. i need to know what i can do. Ive tried counselors, they didnt do anything. ive tried psychologists, and they didnt do anything. i have plenty of places to go, i have a source of income and over a thousand dollars in the bank to support myself, so i was considering living with some friends and families or my birth family (im adopted and have contact with my brother and mother) until i can go to college, but i need to know how to do that without my parents having the ability to bring me back to that insufferable prison they call a home.
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replied November 6th, 2011
Age of Emancipation
The age of emancipation is 16. At that time, you can petition the courts to be allowed to live as an adult. You have to prove you can be self sufficient. Another way to leave them and still study the music you love is by joining the military band. My daughter did and has traveled all over the world playing. You may have to have a parent sign consent for you to join but if you are really serious, check it out. You stated that you could go live with your birth mother and brother. As a 16 yoa, you have the right to go. 16 is almost as good a turning 18. You can quit school, leave home but still have your parents support you until you turn 16. If you are a depressed and angry as your letter appears to be, GET OUT OF THERE. RUN FOR YOUR LIFE. TAKE AS MUCH OF YOUR STUFF THAT YOU WILL NEED AND LEAVE THE REST. CLOTHES AND SHOES CAN BE REPLACED QUITE EASILY. INSTRUMENTS CANNOT.
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replied November 6th, 2011
Age of Emancipation
The age of emancipation is 16. At that time, you can petition the courts to be allowed to live as an adult. You have to prove you can be self sufficient. Another way to leave them and still study the music you love is by joining the military band. My daughter did and has traveled all over the world playing. You may have to have a parent sign consent for you to join but if you are really serious, check it out. You stated that you could go live with your birth mother and brother. As a 16 yoa, you have the right to go. 16 is almost as good a turning 18. You can quit school, leave home but still have your parents support you until you turn 16. If you are a depressed and angry as your letter appears to be, GET OUT OF THERE. RUN FOR YOUR LIFE. TAKE AS MUCH OF YOUR STUFF THAT YOU WILL NEED AND LEAVE THE REST. CLOTHES AND SHOES CAN BE REPLACED QUITE EASILY. INSTRUMENTS CANNOT.
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