So i was with a man 20 years my senior for 2 years. He was seperated with 3 kids whom i had never met and a psycho ex wife.
In the beginning we moved in together and life was sweet, he had a business i sisnt work and he looked after me well.
18 months into the relationship i fell pregnant and we decided to abort.
He closed his business, and it put strain onto the relationship.
I also suffer chronic anxiety and panic disorder whih i think takes its toll on the relationship.
The last 6 months we were together things werent the same, i felt neglected and ugly and i felt he wasnt attracted to me anymore which he denied.
6 weeks ago i ended it for good, and felt great after doing so but im starting to miss him i just feel that his baggage will ruin my life. i dont know whther to get back with him or leave things as they are. my psychologist thinks i should stay away from him what do u think?
I will agree with your Psychologist....He has baggage....No job, ex-wife and three kids....Nowadays life is rough enough without this...
Find yourself....Open your eyes to life and the people around you....You have already gone the route with him....Why would you want to do this again?....If anything, you would probably find that you could never find that place in time where the two of you were, when you first met....The magic has died....Without magic, the Sun doesn't shine and honey, the Sun does shine bright when all in life is well....
I agree, you need to find your self and move on, the missing part can be replaced by something else.. friend maybe.. go shopping, have a girlie nights, smile and laugh a little and after a while it will be all ok again...
am i missing something! you didnt say all the reasons why you left him. you said he closed his business...did he get another job...is he looking. you never met his kids and i assume you dont associate with the mom, so theres no drama there.
then you said you get panic attacks, you feel neglected and ugly, then you broke up with him.
i still not understanding.....what was the reasons why you dumped him. i feel as thought theres a good reason why especially because your phys. doctor told you to stay away from him.