Well she changed the point of entry, making it lower and it doesnt seem to be happening anymore,
the amount of baby movement doesnt seem to be a problem, she is moving constantly much to my wifes discomfort
There thought she was maybe 4 weeks too big due to the diabetes but the ultrasound showed she was the correct size for her age, apparently if you have excess fat on your stomach, it can give a false reading as to exactly how big the baby is
So problem has been solved i believe and thank you to dr nikola and marianne for their help