sometimes after having sex with my bf, the inner lips of my vagina swell. they're hot to the touch, sting when i urinate and resembles a turkey neck. the swelling can last anywhere from a few hours to an entire day. when it happens i can hardly wear undies. i have to walk around in his boxers. it's really gross and disturbing and i want to know how to keep it from happening. does it have anything to do with pubic hair or lack there of? rougher sex?
It can be a number of things. The first thing to eliminate is that arousal and orgasm is causing it. So do you experience this when you masturbate?
Rough sex is definitely a cause for swelling. Just like your (facial) lips swell up when they get bumped, your vaginal lips can swell up the same way.
Hair/stubble can cause redness and scratching with a sting when urine touches it.
Some woman with longer labia minora can have it pulled inside the vagina on the in stroke, especially if they are dry and/or sticky (like when water based lube gets dry - remember to top it up or add a few drops of water to refresh it).
It can be chaffing from the in/out motion and not enough lube on the base of his penis and your labia.
Prolonged and repeated stimulation/masturbation/intercourse can cause something like this as well.
It can also be an allergy to him, a condom or a lube.
If it were me, I would definitely start with some good quality silicone or water based lube and top it up regularly. Even if that is not what is causing it, good lube can only make good sex better .
This happens to me a lot after sex, i cry when i go for a pee after sex because its so painful, i have to wear his boxers for ages i cant walk normally and it hurts to sit down it is very painful and very uncomfortable what do i do? im getting distraught about it now!