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diamondsz
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homerx
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I am gay and I don't think Bisexuals are on the fence...I just think they are bi by design and that is how God made them. Be proud of your bisexuality and remember...no one walks in your shoes but you so who cares what any one thinks! I think your awesome just the way you are! 
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atothei3223
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JustAnotherGirl1234
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diamondsz
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JustAnotherGirl1234
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Caroline, I also think that all women are bi 
Or at least the straight ones are. I have always enjoyed the nude female body, probably to the point that my classmates thought I was gay back then. I also always preferred the company of guys, but now I think it's because in my country gender is a big deal, and it's hard to find a gender neutral person - all girls have to wear skirts/dresses and paint their faces and all that silly stuff. And I can never like anything in a dress! I just preferred the "cool" style of guys, free of all the pretending and over-acting of the girls. I used to say that I'm not a woman, but a human, in order to avoid being forced into that kind of behavior.
Since I moved to the US, I have found many women that dress neutral and act like a person, not a man or a woman. And that is the kind of person that I like - behaving as a human, maybe even combining the best qualities of both genders. To me too girly or too macho is just extreme, and therefore unattractive. Why not be kind and sensitive, but also playful and funny?
And I agree about women knowing how to please each other better, not that I have tried them, but I hope they are, since guys have been less than successful in providing pleasure
Or at least the straight ones are. I have always enjoyed the nude female body, probably to the point that my classmates thought I was gay back then. I also always preferred the company of guys, but now I think it's because in my country gender is a big deal, and it's hard to find a gender neutral person - all girls have to wear skirts/dresses and paint their faces and all that silly stuff. And I can never like anything in a dress! I just preferred the "cool" style of guys, free of all the pretending and over-acting of the girls. I used to say that I'm not a woman, but a human, in order to avoid being forced into that kind of behavior.
Since I moved to the US, I have found many women that dress neutral and act like a person, not a man or a woman. And that is the kind of person that I like - behaving as a human, maybe even combining the best qualities of both genders. To me too girly or too macho is just extreme, and therefore unattractive. Why not be kind and sensitive, but also playful and funny?
And I agree about women knowing how to please each other better, not that I have tried them, but I hope they are, since guys have been less than successful in providing pleasure
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homerx
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JustAnotherGirl1234
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Yeah, I was wondering about men too. Most men I've met are what I call "self-homophobic" and whatever they do, they have to point out in the end that they're not gay. As if anyone cares
I saw a study recently where a group of men were shown gay porn and asked to evaluate their arousal. The men that were assessed to be homophobic (from a previous conversation) not only were more aroused than the other group (measured from penile enlargement) but also claimed that they did not get excited at all! Not saying that all men are like that, but wonder if men are socially less likely to admit it than women.
I saw a study recently where a group of men were shown gay porn and asked to evaluate their arousal. The men that were assessed to be homophobic (from a previous conversation) not only were more aroused than the other group (measured from penile enlargement) but also claimed that they did not get excited at all! Not saying that all men are like that, but wonder if men are socially less likely to admit it than women.
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JustAnotherGirl1234
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Not sure if it's OK to post links to other sites, so check out the video "Mad TV - Gay Straight Guys" on YouTube.
I think it's a very good example
I think it's a very good example
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homerx
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yeah,U can post youtube vids...here...I'll start! 
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ulb3tZU8vsk &feature=PlayList&p=DB7C6D25DDF244 CE&playnext=1&playnext_from=PL& ;index=10
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ulb3tZU8vsk &feature=PlayList&p=DB7C6D25DDF244 CE&playnext=1&playnext_from=PL& ;index=10
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JustAnotherGirl1234
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Opps, I guess my last link looked like advertising. Anyway, I'm sure you can find stuff for yourself if you wanted to
I am from Bulgaria, and right now gender roles are not all that rigid, but as a teen of course everyone wants to see you surrounded by male admirers, so you're supposed to be dressed with your best. It's not so much that I wanted to be dressed as a boy, I just didn't care what I was wearing and could not (still can't) comprehend why someone would want to buy new clothes every week.
LOL, what do you mean "I am gender neutral as well, MINUS the fact I can actually be in a relationship with a woman"? Wouldn't a gender neutral person be able to have relationships with anyone?
Yeah, I guess there are many like us, apparently, and I hope gender becomes less and less important, and less dependednt on your sex or orientation. From personal experience gays are better, because they don't seem to be caught in one gender role, but are just themselves. But I may be wrong
Thanks to all of you too!
I am from Bulgaria, and right now gender roles are not all that rigid, but as a teen of course everyone wants to see you surrounded by male admirers, so you're supposed to be dressed with your best. It's not so much that I wanted to be dressed as a boy, I just didn't care what I was wearing and could not (still can't) comprehend why someone would want to buy new clothes every week.
LOL, what do you mean "I am gender neutral as well, MINUS the fact I can actually be in a relationship with a woman"?
Wouldn't a gender neutral person be able to have relationships with anyone?
Yeah, I guess there are many like us, apparently, and I hope gender becomes less and less important, and less dependednt on your sex or orientation. From personal experience gays are better, because they don't seem to be caught in one gender role, but are just themselves. But I may be wrong
Thanks to all of you too!
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homerx
homerx
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| JustAnotherGirl1234 wrote: |
| Opps, I guess my last link looked like advertising. Anyway, I'm sure you can find stuff for yourself if you wanted to
Thanks to all of you too! |
yeah...I was wondering who had posted something that got deleted!!!! 
I was afraid it was a gay dasher or someone being rude...glad to hear it was just you and they took away links...no biggie.
Anyway,I wanted to say i think you R very cool!
I am 100% gay but believe everyone is different and sexuality deserves to be respected...keep on spreading your positive and valuable message of understanding and respect and tolerance! 
Peace and Love,
Homer
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diamondsz
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LOL, what do you mean "I am gender neutral as well, MINUS the fact I can actually be in a relationship with a woman"? Wouldn't a gender neutral person be able to have relationships with anyone?
Yeah, I guess there are many like us, apparently, and I hope gender becomes less and less important, and less dependednt on your sex or orientation. From personal experience gays are better, because they don't seem to be caught in one gender role, but are just themselves. But I may be wrong
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I dont mean it in that sense, I meant to say I can picture myself in a relationship in a relationship with a woman, doesn't mean I don't like men, I need to watch how I word things blah....
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