Well, what do you want from him at this point?

i jst wanna b friends. i knw im not in luv w/ him. bt i thnk y he felt betryd was tht i wasn't honest w/ him bfre. i guess wht i wnt is advice... how do i get hm to trust me again?

Hi lostmybestfriend,

If he is truly your best friend, and you explain to him that him being in your life strictly as a friend and nothing more, apologize and ask him to forgive you. That should restart the platonic friendship again (platonic meaning ONLY friends, no sex). If he chooses not to be your friend after you have explained this to him. Let him go and learn from the experience.

Good Luck,

Faded Rose

dear faded rose, thanx 4 the advice. i did tht alrdy but maybe he ws 2 mad to 4give me ... is thre anythng i can do or do i jst wait? and no, i don't wanna let hm go. do you knw anybdy who had the sme thng happn 2 thm and thn they got back togethr w/ their gay bf? pls help, i wanna knw it's nt impossble.

lostmybestfriend
This isn't bitterness about having a secret kept by someone else. When straight friends admit they're attracted to the other and it's unwelcome, if the friendship is more important to the crush straight friends always seem to be able to resolve things. I think your friend, no matter how supportive they may have seemed is having difficulty dealing with your attraction personally.

Give them a few weeks to process this and send them an IM or and email, apologize you kept a secret and tell them you missed your friend. Ask them if they'll talk.

wolf,
he blockd me on chat and on facebuk... so i dunno if he evr wnts to tlk 2 me again. but ok, ill try 2 b patient. thanx 4 the advice.

If he blocked you on facebook and chat then believe me when I say he doesnt want anything at all to do with you any more..I am sorry,I am not trying to be mean but take a hint and leave him alone,he is not interested and is put off by you ...its kind of obvious,dont you think? Move on to someone who is interested in you as you are in them.No happiness can come from unrequited love...

I hate to disagree with Homerx but I know how fear can steal things from you. People do stupid things when they're afraid. I don't think you'd loose anything from just one more try. After about a month contact him passively, email or a letter. Don't point fingers or make a big plea. Just tell him that you miss having him as a friend. If he doesn't get back in touch then it cost you just a few minutes and you have closure. If he does get in touch with you you've salvaged a friendship. However you have to be very careful with his trust and your integrity in the friendship after that point.

yeah, i understnd. but i'm nt in luv w/ hm. i HAD feelings, but i gt over that way b4 ths happnd. esp nw that i don't hve him as a friend, i knw 4 sure that's all i really wnt frm him. so, thanks homerx, it wsnt mean of u 2 say tht. i just wntd to mke my side clear. thanks.

hi wolf, thank u, that really helps. ill tke yur advice. im hopeful that we'll b friiends agin bcuz he IMd me tht he's jst 2 frekd out right nw 2 tlk bt he knws iv bn a good friend. thts good news, right? so im relly ok to b patient and wait. if we do bcome friends agin, hw do u thnk we cn gt ovr the awkwardnss? like im sur i cnt hug hm anymr or sleepovr or anythng physicl sins thatll frk hm out. ws thnkng ill ask if he wnts to strt frm scrtch, like a fresh strt. is tht weird or is it bettr 2 try and pick up whr we lft off b4 all ths?

thanks agin wolf. u make a lotta sense!

@wolf, also i wntd yur opinion, i jst thought abt it, bcuz im scard his fear wil make all his memorys of me and him all weird and suspicios, whn its nt like tht at all. it only happnd 4 a shrt time whn i thought i might be in luv w/ him and thn i got ovr it. shold i wrte him a lettr explaing ths? or shld i leave him alne and lt him fgure that out?

Different horse, same shoes. He'll sort things out and if he can't he's not much of a friend to you after all.

ok. thanks wolf. you've been a real help.