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Q: G/F lied to me about masturbating
asked by: LnB4ever on February 29th, 2008
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Hi this is my first post.

A little background. My G/F and I have been together for 6 months and our relationship is going very strong. In fact I know that she is the ONE for me because I'm in Love with her and she is in Love with me. I want to spend the rest of my life with her, we click so well together, and we each love each other so much. We have each agreed to be honset with each other and have a very open to speak about everything and anything.

Today after coming out of the shower I noticed that my G/F was clearing the Recent Documents folder history on the computer. At first I didn't think much of it, but then I found that her vibrator had been moved since I last saw it. My G/F likes to masturbate so I thought, "Hey I guess she just masturbated to porn on the computer". which to me is not a problem at all anymore. I told her before that it's ok if she masturbates without me.

Continuing....I asked her to come to bed with me so we could have sex, she agreed, and I asked her if she had masturbated while I was in the shower (I expected her to be honset as I was going to use this to lead into sexual conversation) To my surprise she denied it, she lied right to my face, she told me she had not masturbated. I told her that I knew she had been masturbating because I saw her deleting the history and I found her vibrator had been moved. Upon hearing this she still was reluctant to admit it, until she finally admitted it. At this point she was upset. As for me I was and still am very hurt, not because she masturbated, but because she lied about masturbating. She looked me in the eyes and lied to me...

Has this ever happened to anyone else? Is it normal? How should I react?
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hrtz2mch
replied on March 1st, 2008
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i honestly dont think u should react, this is something small...sometimes girls jus feel uncomfortable admitting they do masturbate, and maybe w/ u asking her over an over again she felt like she did need to hide cuz of how u would feel, or how u approached it...not sure if this helps or not but, but jus remeber sometimes girls jus wana keep that thing private, but not all the time
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CoolGlassofH2O
replied on March 1st, 2008
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its not a big deal if she gives herself a little pleasure. if my guy asked me i'd be a little shy to tell him yea i masturbate. she just felt shy and you pushing her to tell you the truth didnt help either thats why she got mad. dont worry about it, lieing to your partner that you msaterbate isnt a big deal. but if her masturbating starts to get in the way of you guys spending time alone or having intimacy then you should reallt tell her something
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Willa Weintraub
replied on March 3rd, 2008
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I understand that your hurt that she lied. Quite honestly I would have lied too. I wouldn't want to ruin my bf's experience or turn him off by saying I had masturbated just minutes before he got out of the shower. I really don't think you should take this too harsh. She probaby didn't want to cause any waves or make you feel uncomfortable.
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