You my friend, are a brilliant woman...As we age we change places in life...It is a delicate yet necessary move...It requires both the sexual movement and erotic words of a woman at her best....You see, it is now her duty to become the lover...A man can only do so much...His sexual powers are wanning and he feels doubt...He ,like a woman in Menopause, feels his own shortcomings...Oh, he can make love, but he needs help...He becomes unsure of himself...He needs reassurance...Not words, but actions...He fears not being able to fulfill his part in their lovemaking...Here is where his partner comes into play...She now becomes his "love drug"...She stimulates him both with both her words and her body...The changing of the guard has happened...Now it is her turn...And God help me, she loves every minute of it....She has arrived....

Thanks honey, this has not been easy...Thank you too, Jaz...Kudos to both of you...

Anytime a person finds something new and life- changing, they want to shout it from the rooftops and share it with the world whether it be a religious experience, a successful diet or a sexual awakening. You want to yell, "This is great. You have to try this. You have not lived until you have experienced this!" It's not a "look at me" kind of thing, but a "this has been such a wonderful experience for me that I want others to know the same passion." So I can understand why you're so passionate (pun intended) about your views.

Hi Caroline--Being older is not only complex but it is tiring at times..I love my husband and our sex life is wonderful..He takes his time, I got a massage table for my bday. and he has learned the art of massage and relaxation as well as release.

Talking sex with anyone has not always been easy for me either..I don't know if now it's easier because I am older or if I don't care what someone else thinks..Years ago I learned from a stripper friend that placing ice inside the vagina before sex could hurry things along if that is what I wanted and have used this system off and on..My husband knows when I am letting him use my body and he can equally tell when we are sharing the moment..I hope that age will not stop me and I hope pain will not slow me down much more than it has..There are times I can talk sexually with my husband and other times the words won't come out..But I do stories for him..I will send him email fantasy's and all he has to do is follow the direction the email leads..I'd rather he read my stories than online stories from a Xrated spot..I write him Xrated poems that we play out..So at 56 I think my sex life is really better thanit's ever been..

Caroline you are awesome..72--YEAH so see you are giving continued hope..Yes the massage table was and is a wonderful tool can be used for real massage or the finer things in life like making love in a sensual way..I found a powder duster that glitters and use this in massage..I can tell every inch that i have or have not covered..My hubby loves it and it is a huge turn on all the way around..Our son is a Theraputic massage therapist and teaches massage at university, he taught us the real way to give massage which we do use and of course hubby and I improvised from there..ha ha..

I am looking into buying some costumes mostly of the Scarlet O Hara time frame..My husband and I love history and I think this would be such a turn on..I have already begun buying up the table cloths and place settings and working on a menu..I go all out in my plans..I am working on a story line for my lover boy and can't wait..It will have to be in the late fall as it will take me some time gathering everything I want..

You my friend have found yourself...Welcome to my world...

Why do they tell women that they peak so young?...Younger women expect it...Heck, I haven't peaked yet...I am Tantra...I don't know why...It just came with everything else...I will be adding this post to this site...I am adding one every 5 days...Women are finally start to realize how wonderful that life can be as you age...I live in hog heaven because I accept myself as a sexual woman and each day is a joy...Seeing my husband has caught this disease that I have, we are now a matching set....

Take care,

Caroline

YEAH Caroline...You are awesome.. Honey I love talking with you..Can't wait to read your next post...

Thanks so much...What I tried to show in that post early this morning, was both the bad and good girls at work in a woman's mind...The good girl ususally wins out...She is the one that doesn't allow her other self to talk dirty and be as hot and sexual as she wants to be...She is the one that "pulls the strings" as far as what her sexual self allows...Believe me this can be a fight....I will also be adding The Uninhibited Woman to these posts...But it will take time...These will all be women things...All of life's learning and my aging...All to help us...In essence, I guess I am kind of writing my own book here, rather than do what I have been asked to do....I like that....

Take care,
Caroline

I understand the struggle between good girl and bad..But in reality we should be able to be both with our man..we are taught that as women we are here to bare children,spread our legs,take care of children, houehold, cook dinner and move on..NO ONE says hold up there--you can enjoy making love as well as just having plain ole sex..

There is no harm in knowing you have an option of what you want to do in the bedroom--more important there is no harm doing things in your bedroom as long as no harm comes to anyone..:^)

I have to wonder also though--how open are the men to a womans saying come here? I know some would say it's about time--but others may put a damper on her openness..My husband is like YEAH come on..

I think alot of my openenss comes from when I was a child I was sexually abused by my moms brother..During that time frame I fantasized about a Knight in shining armour just ike in a fairy tale..But, because things were being done to me that were wrong I sorta stepped into the mind game so the pain wouldn't be so bad..I see sex and making love on two different levels and I am glad that I used a little girls imagination to make the bad become good..Thakfully the good Lord gave me my knight a Army man in uniform driving a 68 White and Black Dodge Charger..uuummmmm

kdlee and caroline,
please keep telling us more. i find your commentaries and your perspectives so interesting. so many ppl my age (27) think that when they get older (i'm not saying y'all are old...)that sexual things are no longer a concern. well i HOPE they are a concern when i age. you two are giving me and undoubtedly a lot of other ppl hope for the future and maybe some hope for the present for some of us.

as far as age is concerned, that's nothing but a number any more. 70 is the new 50, and such. just numbers that don't define anything about us except for our experience.

many people pass away at an early age. my perspective is that if you're HERE NOW then you need to be having some fun regardless of your age, and i can't think of one kind of fun that i'd rather have than sexual fun.

amen to that sisters!
jaz

You are sweet..
The bedroom door becomes the harlots retreat where shades of color and scented sheets color lips on bended knee change the world of endearing men and women who want to live within..

Changes of life we dare to share with one another in the open air
Behind closed doors our lovers flare with heated brow and saber stand
Hard flesh ignites the slited womb and brings to life a blinding end..

Here me now on wonderous breath these tears I shed are tears of joy
Bring to me your given ways and toy with me no more
I long for your tender touch and lust within for sure..

Honey: Younger women must know that sexual love doesn't die out as you age...It gets more bold and erotic...IMO, as a woman ages, she takes on a new dimension in her sexual want...She becomes a new woman...Now, more than any time in her life she needs the filling of man....She now both accepts and understand this...It is a new hunger within...A new woman is being born...A woman who feels as if she has a secret and wants to tell it to the whole world...If she accepts this and grows with it, she has a new twinkle in her eye...She looks at her lover as a new extension of herself...They are now truly ready to mate...They discover this new hot and wild connection...Through him, she is allowing this new part of herself to be born.....His accepting her this way is setting her free...She has now unharnessed that place from within and is ready to grow......

xox
Caroline

why was my post deleted? i said nothing inappropriate? i dont even know why this thread wasn't available for a while..and i'm still confused as to why I got a PM about the "posting guidelines" about this thread..as I said earlier..nothing I said was inappropriate...but i guess certain people have the powers to hush us if we say something that they dont like..even if it isn't inappropriate at all

When the blinders are removed from a womans eyes and she can see that there is no longer need to hide behind the covers her relationship with her man will become more imtimate..

For a long time I thought that my faith in God would not allow my openeness with my husband..But, the bible clearly says a man and woman shall become as one..This is intercourse, sex, making love how ever someone wants to say it..

Once I stopped thinking and allowed my inner desire to take over everything fell into place..

Our man is our lover and our friend and we should be able to show and give to him what he wants and what we want behind the bedroom door ..

If there is one thing that warms my heart it is seeing more older women getting involved in posting of the sexual health of a woman...We women are the future to the younger women...If we act dead then they think this is the way that they will be...They don't all learn from their Mother's...Many marriages are not like we are...Only by our speaking freely of the beauty and hunger of this place in our lives, will they understand that this is waiting for them...I make love because we are all that we used to be....Where we started out years ago, is where we are today...Age makes no difference...We are better than all our yesterdays.....When my eyes sing my love to my husband, he responds with all he is as a man...Only believing in yourself and finding that women of old, can your wishes come true....If I speak bold, it is because I am bold...Age has no handicap unless you put a restriction on yourself...Seeing I have no bandages, I let it all hang out...And may I add, I will until the day that I die....This alone is the reason for this thread....

P.S. The reason I have to correct this is I have no spell check or preview...

I'm not sure, but I think I am putting this on to force myself to do what I told a woman last night that I would post....This way I can't chicken out...You see, she was unsure of her sexuality...I told her that I thought the post that I will be posting may help her out...I was going to post about why women stop wanting sex, but seeing I am slowly dying inside from the "good girl" fighting the bad girl doubt in my mind, this baby is going to go on...It is a bold post...It is a truthful post...It, in my opinion, speaks about life...Sometimes I wish that long ago when I was young and newly married, that I would have known a woman like me...It sure would have made our life a lot more fun....

Oh, and the name of the Topic part of this thread will be: Women Who Love Women Make Good Lovers...That title alone should raise the ignore button...

Well that makes sense ..Caroline are you saying-
If we love one another then we know how to give..
I have met many women who has and will stab another in the back instead of helping them along?
If you can love another woman than you are able to give your man all he needs..Maybe even love oneself as a woman would be all it would take..kd

caroline, you are so doggone right about this. women blame their men for not getting them off all the time, but a man has never had a vagina. he doesn't have anything about him that instinctively tells him what he needs to do. your last line was profound. learn to be a woman, and then teach him how to be a man!

i have expectations of my man! i want him to perform for me. i want him to satisfy me, and i'll help educate him on exactly how to do that when he doesn't know. for his willingness to be a man, MY MAN, i'll do anything for him. anything he desires, and pretty much any time (with very few limitations). and why is that? that's because i'm open to being a passionate, and fully satisfied woman.

jasmine

Ahhh, so I see where you were headed with this..

Maybe you are right in that women some times will turn to antoher woman with the notion that she will at least know how to take care of her sexually..Woman knowing what please another woman..

I agree-- to open your mouth and talk with your man is the best gift you could ever give him or yourself..He wants to be Tarzan he wants to be dominant and give you what no other can..So, teach him.. Show him what oyu want--you can do this by telling him watch and learn..Show him what you want by doing to him what you want done to you..Tell him before hand this is what I want and show him..You'll be amazed at the response you will get..

AND WHEN THE WORDS DOTH NOT COME TO MY LIPS I KNOW THY WARMTH WILL COVER ME

TENDER LAYERS OF HIDDEN SILK FINDS THY HAND DUG DEEP WITHIN
SHOWING ME THY MANYLY STAY

GUIDED TO RELEASE ME FROM THIS FEVERISH WAY I GATHER THY FACE TO MY LIPS

PUSHING THEE DOWN I WAIT FOR THY BREATH TO BRING ME TO MY STEAMING BATH

HEATED LIMBS SURROUNDING BOTH MOVING TO AND FRO WORDS OVERCOME ME

SOUND LEAVES ME AND ALL I KNOW IS NOW.. KD