My fiance and I have been together for about 4 years. I moved in with him about 2 years ago and we have been engaged for 4 months.



For the first 2 years our sex life was great and included foreplay and making out. Then after moving in with him I noticed that foreplay started being less frequent and so did make-out sessions. I find myself begging him for sex and when I get it it's so selfish. There is NO foreplay or even making out to get me heated up. He just puts a condom on, has sex with me and is done after he orgasms. NEVER asking me if I've orgasmed or if I'm even satisfied. I don't remember the last time we had foreplay or the last time he's made me orgasm. I give him oral but it is not given back. I get nothing at all.


I now find myself masterbating when he goes to sleep or when he goes to work to satisfy myself. I've tried SO many times to talk to him about it (pleasantly) but NOTHING changes and he doesn't even say anything. He gets this attitude as if I'm hurting his feelings and I'm the one doing something wrong and he sits there quiet and will be like, "What do you want me to say?" I asked him, "Should I just accept that nothing will change?" and his answer was, "I don't know."



I can't handle this anymore. I'm SO frustrated with him and feel helpless. He's the most amazing person I've ever known and treats me incredibly well. The only issue we have is in the bedroom and I'm not sure how that changed. He won't even try new things, it's hopeless. Is it the fact that I moved in with him that's made him change? I ask him why there is no more foreplay and he doesn't have an answer, just, "I don't know."



It's made me so insecure with myself cuz I feel as if he's no longer visually attracted to me. I tell him this and he keeps assuring me that it isn't me but won't say why things have changed.



I don't know what to do...