If you and the guy have no issues with being more intimate and then going back to a less intimate friendship then go for it. It takes a mature and open person to be able to maintain a friendship but it can be a really wonderful friendship. I was able to discuss very personal issues and get great guy advice from a friend I had been in a relationship with.

there's nothing wrong with being friends with an EX.....
i've known this one guy for a pretty long time...
then we dated for a while..
we fell in love...
he moved away..so it ended...
and now he's just 2hrs away..
but we're very go0d friends....
maybe MORE than that....

I just keep thinking back to how things were during the relationship and the break-up. When we are talking it doesnt come to mind always after and I say I wish I didnt talk to him . . .

He said our relationship was good only one problem (communicaton) but everything else was great. I just think that friends should allow friends to make mistakes and give them atleast a chance to see if they can fix them. He knew it was my first serious relationship - give a girl a chance!

Kind of like if your friend choose the wrong new hairstlye - you might not want to go out with her or something but a real friend would say I think that hairstlye isnt you.

Does anybody understand this point of view? I dont know if you can apply it to relationships but . . . bottom line a friend should be a friend no matter what and people deserve at least a second chance (sometimes maybe a third!)

Thanks alot for giving some imput in the previous replys - P.S we havent seen each other for about 5 days since he broke up with me but we will tomorrow so I'll see if that changes things for the worst with me or changes things with him

same thing I'm going through honey.......
I was just telling you about my experience....
but can you be more clear on your situation?.....
wait...
you and your bf broke up..
but you guys still talk??....
well you're gonna see him...
just tell me how'd that went??..
(keep me posted)

If he's not going to give a second chance then there's not much to do.

I think that its not really about chances really, more about willing to talk over problems and work with the relationship. But in order for that to happen you need to have someone with enough guts to clearly state the problem, the receiver needs to be mature enough to realize its not an attack and accept there is a problem, and then both people need to be willing to work it out. I know what you mean though, it really sucks to think that a relationship ended and you didn't even realize something was wrong.

Judging by your post, are you sure you're ready to really be friends yet? I think a friendship can definetly work, but you can't be trying to put things together or wondering why it didn't work out. If you're close you're going to have to deal with him being with other girls and maybe even him talking about them to you. If you're not over this guy, don't put yourself in a situation that will just upset you. Get over the break up, then be friends (Not trying to be mean, I've just been through this myself and have had many friends who made the mistake of being friends with an ex too early ).

Thanks Maddie. I understand all that your saying.

Well he said hello and I said hello and he tried to have a conversation (walking with me towards the direction I go home to) but I just laughed weakly at whatever it was he said and kept walking.

A part of me still wants to be friends - maybe I will but let him be the one to contact me (as in IMing me)

Well just because you're not 100% ready to be close friends now doesn't mean it will never happen.

My ex and I are close friends on IM. We talk to eachother when we have problems but no so much just to hang out. He's a close friend in a sense that I know I can always go to him for advice or just to vent about something thats making me upset. He certainly knows I'm there for him to do the same. Though we stopped talking for a good couple of months after we broke up.

Just give it time and take little baby steps. Until you feel completely comfortable being just friends then you should be careful about when and where you hang out.

I dnt see anythin wrong with bein friends wit an ex if it dosnt effect you in anyway. It might not be the easiest thing to do. I was in a lil more then a 2 1/2 yrs relationship with my x, but before we started dateing we was friends for about 8 months. We been broke up about 4 months now, & we are still friends. We call each other when we need someone to talk to & every once in a while we hand out. I'm still not over him yet, so it hurts when we do hang out, cause i still want the intament part of our relationship, but i try 2 ignore it & face the fact that he has moved on & we are just friends.

So, no. I don't see the problem in bieing friends with an ex!

I have to say it depends on the grounds of the break up and your relationship.

I guess there nothing wrong with being friends just because the relationship doesn't worked out with the two of you doesn't meant friendship doesn't either.