lmw
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found boyfriends porn
Posted: 09-01-08 21:19pm
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hey girls
last night i found a dirty magazine in my
boyfriends bedroom, right out in the open
(obviously he forgot to hide it)
immediatley i was shocked and upset. i
have been with my boyfriend for almost 2
years and this is the first ive seen it
and really thought about it.
it really got to me because i felt like i
dont satisfy him. i love him so much and i
thought i did.
i feel like i am not good enough. last
night i felt so worthless. im not going to
be the perfect girl with the perfect body
and perfect boobs and skin.
he thought i majorly overreacted and he
thinks that he did nothing wrong.
why do guys need porn if they have a
girlfriend?? its not like i dont believe
in masterbation..its the fact that he
needs porn to look at to turn him on to
get him off.
any girls on the same boat?
thx
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0098721
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Posted: 09-01-08 23:02pm
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i have also been with my boyfriend for two
years and he watches porn too. See porn to
my boyfriend is when i cant be around or
its that time of the month. And for him
porn can be anything he wants it to be
whatever hes in the mood for. And he also
uses it to turn him on so hes extra honry
when i get there. And he watches it to
find new moves and stuff . Its not that
you dont turn him on or not prefect its
kinda like they can have whatever they
wheneVer they want. the way i look at it
is just be happy its not a another girl
and if he keeps him happy then dont worry
about it.
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worrywart01
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Posted: 09-01-08 23:53pm
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eh he's a boy..to find a guy that doesn't
look at porn is extremely rare...its just
a quick way for him to get off that means
nothing..if you're not around and he needs
to satisfy himself then...its the way to
do it...i remember first seeing what my
boyfriend looked at...it bugged me
alittle..mostly that I had to see it and
know, but whatever...its just some chick
in a book that he'll never touch..IM the
real thing
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illustriously fickle
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Posted: 09-02-08 08:49am
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How old is he? I think guys look at porn
a lot in their 20's, but should outgrow it
by the time they're a little more mature.
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lmw
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Posted: 09-02-08 11:02am
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my bf is 23
ok thanks girls.
maybe i shouldnt be so uptight 
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boling7168
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porn
Posted: 09-05-08 20:44pm
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go to a few movies learn a few things have
a great time. u will get very horny.
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mwoodj
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Posted: 09-05-08 21:19pm
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I am a guy and I have been married for
over 8 years. My wife is the only person I
have ever had intercourse with. I
occasionally look at pornography. My wife
is completely aware that I do and she
couldn't care less. I think it is
unreasonable to suggest that a person
should never see another person naked so
long as they are your significant other.
People have a natural desire to see other
people naked. I do not have an obsession
and pornography does not take the place of
my wife. You are lumping you, sexuality in
your relationship, and the pornography all
into one when really they are separate
categories. I do not look at porn when I
don't get enough from my wife or because
she isn't satisfying me. I look at porn
when it has been too long since I last
looked at porn. Trust me, we generally
don't look at it long. Also, we will never
outgrow it. Now, this goes both ways. I
caught my wife reading intimate stories
once and I had no foot to stand on in
arguing that she shouldn't read them.
These are harmless activities. You can bet
that your boyfriend will toss the porn
aside given the opportunity to be intimate
with you and you may find him picking up a
thing or two from his little hobby as well
which would be of benefit to you both.
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Sukki
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Posted: 09-07-08 08:18am
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its common where i live and even muslims
are looking at porn. even girls. i did too
before
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J3nnyuk
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Posted: 09-07-08 12:41pm
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i think it's normal for guys to look at it
because its not like their out cheating or
anything and plus they can learn new
things to try on you which is really nice,
me personally am not into porn, it doesn't
bother me but i dont watch it, i know my
fiance does and im ok with it
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WinterDreams
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Posted: 09-07-08 14:33pm
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Hey dont be too upset about it, porn can
be quite good in a relationship, both me
and my partner watch porn together, it
turns us on for some reason, also can be
useful for tips, But he understands that
there things on porn that i wont do, if
your very much like me then you must make
it clear that you are not one of those
girls.
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Posted: 09-07-08 15:27pm
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| illustriously fickle
wrote: | | How old is he? I think guys
look at porn a lot in their 20's, but
should outgrow it by the time they're a
little more
mature. |
Heh heh...NOT.

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lmw
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Posted: 09-08-08 10:54am
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ok thanks for your opinions everyone!
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Sukki
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Posted: 09-08-08 11:10am
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And oh, i found anime porn (hentai),
japanese porn, doujinshi (nudity art) and
edison chen's scandal photos in my ex's
external HDD. Worse enough, there ARE guys
who watch porn in front of girls!
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Jaydensmommy
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Posted: 09-08-08 20:27pm
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It is a man thing haha just about all men
do it!!!!!! Even if they have supermodel
looking girlfriends!
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Sukki
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Posted: 09-08-08 22:26pm
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Agreed but she can voice out if she doesnt
like it..
but my bf (we just broke up) he doesnt
wtch porn when he has me..but even then he
still masturbate every night..
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Jazzy77
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Posted: 09-16-08 20:58pm
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boys and porn. my b/f looks at porn a
lot! i don't like porn personally, but it
doesn't bother me that he watches it. he
is so doggone visual about everything. no
"lights off" for him! he wants to see
everything, play with everything,
sometimes i feel like i'm a big game to
him! hahaha...i say that kinda joking and
kinda serious.
i think that the porn thing is in the
basal nature of men. same with
masturbation. i can't say much about the
masturbation thing though. i like that
too. anyway, to the original poster,
you're smart to relax about the porno. it
seems to me to be inevitable...kinda comes
with the boy (no pun intended).
hehehehe.
jasmine
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thunderclouds
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Posted: 10-10-08 20:05pm
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what i just dont understand is why they
have "porn parties"....i mean why not go
out and get the real thing?
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