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lmw

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found boyfriends porn
Posted: 09-01-08 21:19pm

hey girls
last night i found a dirty magazine in my boyfriends bedroom, right out in the open (obviously he forgot to hide it)
immediatley i was shocked and upset. i have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and this is the first ive seen it and really thought about it.
it really got to me because i felt like i dont satisfy him. i love him so much and i thought i did.
i feel like i am not good enough. last night i felt so worthless. im not going to be the perfect girl with the perfect body and perfect boobs and skin.
he thought i majorly overreacted and he thinks that he did nothing wrong.
why do guys need porn if they have a girlfriend?? its not like i dont believe in masterbation..its the fact that he needs porn to look at to turn him on to get him off.
any girls on the same boat?
thx
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0098721

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Posted: 09-01-08 23:02pm

i have also been with my boyfriend for two years and he watches porn too. See porn to my boyfriend is when i cant be around or its that time of the month. And for him porn can be anything he wants it to be whatever hes in the mood for. And he also uses it to turn him on so hes extra honry when i get there. And he watches it to find new moves and stuff . Its not that you dont turn him on or not prefect its kinda like they can have whatever they wheneVer they want. the way i look at it is just be happy its not a another girl and if he keeps him happy then dont worry about it.
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worrywart01

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Posted: 09-01-08 23:53pm

eh he's a boy..to find a guy that doesn't look at porn is extremely rare...its just a quick way for him to get off that means nothing..if you're not around and he needs to satisfy himself then...its the way to do it...i remember first seeing what my boyfriend looked at...it bugged me alittle..mostly that I had to see it and know, but whatever...its just some chick in a book that he'll never touch..IM the real thing
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illustriously fickle

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Posted: 09-02-08 08:49am

How old is he? I think guys look at porn a lot in their 20's, but should outgrow it by the time they're a little more mature.
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lmw

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Posted: 09-02-08 11:02am

my bf is 23
ok thanks girls.
maybe i shouldnt be so uptight Razz
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boling7168

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Posted: 09-05-08 20:44pm

go to a few movies learn a few things have a great time. u will get very horny.
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mwoodj

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Posted: 09-05-08 21:19pm

I am a guy and I have been married for over 8 years. My wife is the only person I have ever had intercourse with. I occasionally look at pornography. My wife is completely aware that I do and she couldn't care less. I think it is unreasonable to suggest that a person should never see another person naked so long as they are your significant other. People have a natural desire to see other people naked. I do not have an obsession and pornography does not take the place of my wife. You are lumping you, sexuality in your relationship, and the pornography all into one when really they are separate categories. I do not look at porn when I don't get enough from my wife or because she isn't satisfying me. I look at porn when it has been too long since I last looked at porn. Trust me, we generally don't look at it long. Also, we will never outgrow it. Now, this goes both ways. I caught my wife reading intimate stories once and I had no foot to stand on in arguing that she shouldn't read them. These are harmless activities. You can bet that your boyfriend will toss the porn aside given the opportunity to be intimate with you and you may find him picking up a thing or two from his little hobby as well which would be of benefit to you both.
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Sukki

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Posted: 09-07-08 08:18am

its common where i live and even muslims are looking at porn. even girls. i did too before
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J3nnyuk

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Posted: 09-07-08 12:41pm

i think it's normal for guys to look at it because its not like their out cheating or anything and plus they can learn new things to try on you which is really nice, me personally am not into porn, it doesn't bother me but i dont watch it, i know my fiance does and im ok with it
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WinterDreams

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Posted: 09-07-08 14:33pm

Hey dont be too upset about it, porn can be quite good in a relationship, both me and my partner watch porn together, it turns us on for some reason, also can be useful for tips, But he understands that there things on porn that i wont do, if your very much like me then you must make it clear that you are not one of those girls.
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Posted: 09-07-08 15:27pm

illustriously fickle wrote:
How old is he? I think guys look at porn a lot in their 20's, but should outgrow it by the time they're a little more mature.


Heh heh...NOT.

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lmw

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Posted: 09-08-08 10:54am

ok thanks for your opinions everyone!
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Sukki

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Posted: 09-08-08 11:10am

And oh, i found anime porn (hentai), japanese porn, doujinshi (nudity art) and edison chen's scandal photos in my ex's external HDD. Worse enough, there ARE guys who watch porn in front of girls!
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Jaydensmommy

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Posted: 09-08-08 20:27pm

It is a man thing haha just about all men do it!!!!!! Even if they have supermodel looking girlfriends!
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Sukki

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Posted: 09-08-08 22:26pm

Agreed but she can voice out if she doesnt like it..
but my bf (we just broke up) he doesnt wtch porn when he has me..but even then he still masturbate every night..
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Jazzy77

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Posted: 09-16-08 20:58pm

boys and porn. my b/f looks at porn a lot! i don't like porn personally, but it doesn't bother me that he watches it. he is so doggone visual about everything. no "lights off" for him! he wants to see everything, play with everything, sometimes i feel like i'm a big game to him! hahaha...i say that kinda joking and kinda serious.

i think that the porn thing is in the basal nature of men. same with masturbation. i can't say much about the masturbation thing though. i like that too. anyway, to the original poster, you're smart to relax about the porno. it seems to me to be inevitable...kinda comes with the boy (no pun intended). hehehehe.
jasmine
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thunderclouds

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Posted: 10-10-08 20:05pm

what i just dont understand is why they have "porn parties"....i mean why not go out and get the real thing?
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