My Bipolar husband of 6 years went of his meds, had a manic episode, got very drunk and cheated on me with another woman. He confessed as soon as he came home and seems genuinely torn up about it. He swears up and down this was the one and only time; I am tempted to believe since it is the only time I know of he has gone off his meds in the 6 years we have been married, but, I do not know if he is telling the truth. I love him very much, but I'm unsure if I will every be able to trust him again. I think that, in time, I may be able to forgive him, but everything is now changed as I will never be able trust him fully to take his meds faithfully and be faithful to me. He has promised to always take the meds and attend his AA meetings but, I am terrified that if I do not leave him now, I will just be setting myself up for a lifetime of his infidelity. I'm also worried that, by not leaving him, I am enabling this behavior and that is the last thing I want to do. We have two small children together and, when he is medicated, we have a very nice life and I would hate to throw it away if there is a chance to save it. Would that be doing both of us a big disservice? Could a bipolar man who cheated on me ever be faithful, or will he always continue to cheat and break my heart?
I personally do not believe that being Bipolar should be an excuse for cheating. They know the difference between right and wrong. I think this is more of you having to decide if you love him enough to stay with him. Always forgive but that doesnt mean that you have to stay when you are cheated on. Im sorry for what you are going through
Really annoys me when people say "im Bipolar and do not cheat, so its not an excuse".
Mental illness is by itself personal to the one who has it and it is different to everyone who has some form of psychological problems, we all have not lived the same lives clearly so we are all affected differently.
40 out of every 100 Bipolar's on average have cheated and continue to cheat unless they have support, the problem is many partners who choose to stay with their Bipolar partner fail to read up on it.
Bipolar needs people to be educated in it, failure to do so increases the risk that a Bipolar person will cheat, some actually find it hard to say NO, or feel obligated to another's wishes, though usually someone with Bipolar needs comfort to repair the felt neglect from their partner which is easy to do if not in that kind of routine or you relation lacks any real conversation or communication in general, however many couples are oblivious to the needs of the Bipolar which creates the rift in the first place.
hypersexuality is just as common self medicating and spending money, a bipolar doesnt cheat out of spite or selfishness but because the body and mind is lacking in something and tries to compensate for it just like it would with anything it needs and so the result is infidelity. people need to be understand and realise cheating is not about the person, but the illness its not a personality flaw it slowly progresses from something insignificant, and to remove it takes the same amount of time and care.
only 2% are heartless !**@!, a person who cheats feels immense guilt maybe a few weeks afterwards but they do and usually suffer in silence through something they could not help.
Cheating is a combination of every side effect and symptom of a manic episode. I don't think the person should be completely foriveng, because it isn't an excuse for cheating. But it is the reason the cheating happened. You will still have to sift through the emotional damage, just take heart knowing that for them it probably had little to nothing to do with infidelity, because when it happened they were manic and not themselves and not making true choices.