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May 11th, 2012
heyy everybody....i need advice on my situation...
I know a girl(SS) for the past 9 yrs....we were together at school for 3 yrs....we were best friends thn..i liked her a lot,nd got to know from a friend of hers that she(SS) too liked me..thn I had to change my school...
We live really far from each other, so for the most part I never got to see her…till now everything was fine.... whn some girls approached me, I just rejected their proposals coz I love her (SS)a lot....but we were not in touch any more...I was still thinking that someday we would be together....everyday i used to pray that God just bring us two together....lyf ws going on fine...

then whn I ws in 1st yr of collg , she out of nowhere called me on my birthday(it wz aftr 4 yrs tht I wz hearing frm her).....thn we started chatting daily....She started txtng me all those love related sms....we started chatting a lot,at times till 3:00 in the morning....one day we decided to meet....it wz a nice meeting ....we chatted for 2 nd half hour....nw i m thinking of asking her out....bt i dont have a clue about her feelings for me now.....

I had not seen a single girl just coz i love her very,very much....nobody cares for her the way i do.... I have always had a thing for her, but because of the distance, I didn't think it would work out….I am sure she knows about my feelings…but I don’t know how she feels for me now(after almost 4 yrs)… ….bt the main problem is SOMETIMES SHE ACTS LYK SHE TOO LOVES ME,ND SOMETIMES AS IF SHE DOESN’T EVEN KNOW ME….I havnt told her about my feelings yet(bt aren’t they obvious),coz I fear tht our friendship will be destroyed... i'm such an emotional idiot. .. I always think that she loves someone else …But it's so hard to let go. Anytime I think I might be close to pushing the feelings down, she does the tiniest thing and pulls me back in. I can't get out. She means so much more to me than anything I can think of. I'd do anything to just see her smile, given the chances. I don't know what to do. It's killing me. ..

Please bear my language…I m nt used to write in English….i l add further details whn I get more replies….thanks for reading...….
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VBIDforever
replied May 12th, 2012
will sombody plz help me??anyone??
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FadedRose
replied May 18th, 2012
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Hi VBIDforever,

You are on an emotional roller coaster. Write all your feelings out in a letter to this girl. Ask her why after 4 years did she reenter into your life, how does she feel about you, does she love you, what are her plans for the future, does it include you, is she seeing anyone romatically,(don't tell her you love her, although, she must feel you do you keep allowing her to connect with you), until she has answered these questions and any others you may have. This relationship as it currently is, isn't healthy for you. You seem to be only interested in her happiness not your own. This isn't a loving, mutual relationship. It is one sided. You will have to decide if you want to continue another 4 years this way or if you want to pull the plug on this relationship and began to heal.

Good Luck,

Faded Rose
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