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Q: Fisting ?
asked by: Rosie H on March 6th, 2009
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Well I’m a little, no very embarrassed to post this topic. Mostly cause fisting seems like something only porn stars would do. And I have a warped mind when it comes to what’s right and wrong with sex.

So has anyone done this?
How does it feel?
Is this dirty or nasty?
Is this normal?

The reason I ask is because I love my hubby hands. They work miracles down there. Well he recently brought this up and asked if we could try it. It made me so uncomfortable that my libido dropped and we stopped having sex. I really don’t want this to happen and honestly the thought of being completely filled with him sounds hot. So what do you ladies think? Oh and will it make you really loose after?
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JavaMissus
replied on March 6th, 2009
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Personally I would not care for it....We are just plain hot sexual love....No toys, just two people lost in smut and lust....I don't like the thought of a whole hand inside of me...He will use one finger stimulating me high in the vagina and the thumb stimulating my clit at the same time, but what I have is too precious and I wouldn't want anything harmed to ruin this place of sexual orgasm that I go to....To me and only my thought, when you have to go to a place beyond the realm of normal sexual pleasure, to introduce a body part being shoved inside another one, other than the sexual one intended, you are tiring of another to the point that you need another hook up to find yet more sexual stirring to turn you on.....May sound odd but I will accept this....

You asked and I answered....Now I am prepared to get beat up.... Rolling Eyes
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Rosie H
replied on March 6th, 2009
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makes sense. I always thought it was a little risky and maybe even degrading. Not sure why I think this. It just seems like its not normal. But whats normal right?

I dont know. Daniel and I have been having sex for 3 yrs and Im very petite and hes very big. We would ALWAYs have to be careful. If not he would hurt me. We couldnt do a lot pf positions either. Well after my son was born I was finally able to experience how it felt to have all if him (or anyone for that matter) fully inside of me. Or to be filled by him. OMG

That was a turning point in my sexual satisfaction. Now since then we have been able to experiment with all the things I missed out on cause I was too small or he was too big.

This is one of the things we talked about. I just want to hear all the womens perspectives. Like is this something only the porn stars do? Or can this be an act of love like oral sex or kissing?
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Rosie H
replied on March 6th, 2009
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oh I dont know about the entire fist like thats just scary as hell.

im thinking just his four fingers. No way is that thumb and wrist going up there!!!!
hell i pushed a kid out and really dont want to do something like that again!

He has a big hand too. No sir re....

just wanted to clarify that.
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JavaMissus
replied on March 6th, 2009
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Rosie, if it turns you on go for it....That is what erotic heat is...When we are in want, anything goes...But the thought of it scares me...Especially in a moment when I am not horny....I have a dildo, but have never used it...At least not with him around...He is so jealous of anything that I have...I have my Eric the Eroscillator vibrator...Love it to death and want to masturbate in front of him and he will not let me....He is jealous of a machine turning me on....Go figure Rolling Eyes ...I have pleaded with him as I know if he saw me getting off he would jump in from the other side of the room, but he won't....So I leave it alone and use it when he is sleeping at night....Sometimes I think that this is good....I say this because women have two kids of orgasms...One with a man in deep penetration with your g-spot and vaginal orgasm and one by yourself with that slow motor stimulating you up and down and going high into that place of beauty that purrs....

Ah, someday I will let him find me.....This I promise myself....That is, if I get the nerve to do it.....
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Rosie H
replied on March 6th, 2009
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yeah hey if we are in the moment then I would go anywhere with him..

See im trying to get over my embarrasement of masterbation so I can get myself off in from of him. He is dying for it....it just feels awkward. But he would fall over if he could catch me..lol

I dont know the thought like I said turns me on. The fact that he is completey inside of me and is taking me...and he gets so turned on while using his hand. its just a double pleasure boat for the both of us

we will see what feels right...as you know hes MIA right now and will be for the next month...so I will be on my own.

I think every man may secretly be worried about a machine. That you would somehow find that stimulation more exciting than theirs. But it comes down to an insecurity. Daniel likes to use toys with me...hes never said anything like that.

I think if he knew that I used them oftem he might be a worried....lol
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HandBagDiva
replied on March 7th, 2009
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fisting?
u mean let a Man put His fist all up in my "Candy Shop"? O, no I'm good.. Those of u who like it, Good 4 U..
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J3nnyuk
replied on March 9th, 2009
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Well Rosie H I think that if you want to give it a try then use plenty of lube Razz.....Make sure you are relaxed and just enjoy it together.....Oh just to say i have never done actual fisting but my boyfriend has put 4 fingers up there but only when I'm very excited anyway if you know what i mean Razz
Just do whatever makes you feel comfortable...Good luck...Jenny
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Rosie H
replied on March 9th, 2009
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yep thats what I will do... = )
as long as it feels good to me and him then theres no shame right?

is there anyone out there that has tried it? I have heard from others that its feels good. The entire fist sounds a little painful, but the 4 fingers things is great

I have to agree with that!

I have also heard of anal fisting...now that sounds very frightening...lol
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J3nnyuk
replied on March 9th, 2009
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Omg that would be discusting anal fisting eerrrr! LOl
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Rosie H
replied on March 9th, 2009
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yeah, right??? I mean i have had anal sex and enjoy it but a huge fist up there is just too much...my own personal opinion

can you imagine how painful that must be.
No thank you.

at least the vagina is designed to stretch
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J3nnyuk
replied on March 9th, 2009
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LOL yep i agree i have had anal before to with my fella and that hurt a bit until i was relaxed because he is quite "large" Razz
but fist NO thanks :p
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Rosie H
replied on March 9th, 2009
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yeah same with my hubby..hes is very well endowed.

it took us a few ties and lots of oops to get that one down...lol

good times
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J3nnyuk
replied on March 9th, 2009
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Razz Smile
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furrytail
replied on March 9th, 2009
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Rosie,
I agree with many others who have answered above, if you want to try it, because the thought of doing fisting turns you on, then give it a go. BUT, please be sure to use plenty of lubrication, and have the fister go very slowly, a finger at a time, so that you can gauge your comfort level and also you have to have the ability to say stop when you feel uncomfortable or in pain.
As for anal fisting, OMG I really don't think so - I mean the idea of a fist up my butt is not something that turns me on.

Wendy
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Rosie H
replied on March 10th, 2009
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LOL that last bit was so funny...Im sorry I just got this funny visual.

Daniel and I have very open communication when it comes to sex so I know I will be fine. I think I will save the act of fisting for another time though. Lets just stick to the natural way of things..lol

wow never thought i would even be talking about this subject..lol

its not everyday you can ask someone these questions...without being judged
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J3nnyuk
replied on March 10th, 2009
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thats what we are here for hunni Razz
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furrytail
replied on March 10th, 2009
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Rosie,
As J3nnyuk as said, this is why we are here. You can discuss pretty much anything with us, so don't be shy, and we will give you our honest, and sometime blunt, knowledge and opinions. Ultimately, we are here to help.

Wendy
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JavaMissus
replied on March 10th, 2009
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It is not being able to ask these questions and talk with other women why so many marriages fail.....Women do not know what to do and what not to do...They want to do it but keep it all safely tucked away in their head....Many die never knowing all the pleasures that we have known...

That is what is sad...

Caroline
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Rosie H
replied on March 10th, 2009
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i agree. i have always kept a huge part of myself away from the entire world, especially my husband. if they dont have all of you then they cant hurt you

but thats just a fantasy, because of you knew who you were then you wouldnt have to hide anything from anyone because its already yours

I know im getting off subject but this has a lot to do with communication...about sex, love and anything

i just feel more open to everything now. i feel like I have been missing out on a full filling marriage and life by not giving my all

sex is definately one of the things that have improved...lol. Im so eager to see what God has in store for me next
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