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have you done anal
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does it hurts?
What are ways to make it feel better?
Have you done it?
does it turn you on?
is it easy?
positions for it?
Do guys like it?
How do you know if your ready for it?
is it better in the pool?/water?
have you done it in the water?

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replied July 9th, 2008
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some buddy say something.
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replied May 1st, 2012
the best thing to do is get some KY lubrication and tell your partner to go in slowly because if he goes in realy hard and fast its gonna hurt at first it does hurt but then after a while it doesnt doggy style is the best way or lay on your side i wouldnt recomend doing it in water i mean think about it water isnt slippery it might hurt. hope i helped Smile
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replied July 9th, 2008
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shy??
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replied July 9th, 2008
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Hey

You could try vaseline.. I am sure you could google.com for some positions. Good luck
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replied July 9th, 2008
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My best GF says she loves it
And, that her partners totally love it. But, it takes patience and care she says. Not to rush into.

I wanted to try it but my former BF was too squimish and wouldn't even let me touch him down there. Oh, well. Different strokes for different folks.

If this is something that you are both into, explore.

Good luck.
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replied July 9th, 2008
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i tried it ith my ex we were together for 4 years I found that it hurt. Take it slow!
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replied July 9th, 2008
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i tried it once with my boyfriend, its...different...it definitely takes alot of patience and lube though bc the first time especially is uncomfortable and you have to RELAX..if you dont it wont be pleasant..at all...we haven't tried it again since though...it was more of him wanting to experiment I think, and i guess it wasn't all he thought it'd be(thank goodness haha)
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replied July 13th, 2008
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LUBE!! There's no such thing as too much lube! Even the cheap Equate (KY knockoff) from Walmart.

TAKE IT SLOW!! Especially if it's your first time. Inch by inch is best. After about a minute, your muscles should have relaxed and then it won't be as painful. But continue to take it slow until it's enjoyable.

RELAX!! There's nothing worse than stiffening up.

It's like most things, once you get that first leg done, it's so much easier.

If you like it, you like it. If you don't, you don't. Everyone is different, and I would say it definitely depends on the partner as well. I tried it with my ex and HATED it (even after three times Rolling Eyes) And now with my husband, it's great! We finally tried it two days ago, and I can't get enough of it! It's really weird saying it now, cause for the longest time I just found it disgusting...

For first timers, try it on your back, it's the easiest way to relax. If you enjoy it, doggy style and laying on your stomach are good ones.

I don't like doing anything in water, it washes away all the natural liquids. So I wouldn't recommend this in the water either, seems way too rough to me.
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replied July 22nd, 2008
Use lots of lubricant. Since the anal region is not self-lubricating, anal lubricants are extremely helpful for making penetration more comfortable and pleasurable. Water-based and silicone-based lubes work well.
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replied July 24th, 2008
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does it hurts?

It can hurt at first when you are still tight, but after a minute of slow penetration it will ease up and start to become enjoyable.


What are ways to make it feel better?

Use K-Y Jelly, lots of it.

Have you done it?

Yes, I enjoy it with my husband often.


does it turn you on?

Yes it can be a real turn on.


is it easy?

No - not at first, it can hurt, the guy has to take it really slow. If you want more control over how much you take in then sit on top of the guy and guide him in, but lean forward until you are comfortable.

positions for it? You can sit on the guy, straddle him and take it in you that way. Or you can try doggy style but the guy has more control that way and have to warn him to start slow.


Do guys like it?

I think I actually enjoy it more then my husband, lol

How do you know if your ready for it?

When you feel yourself relax

is it better in the pool?/water?
have you done it in the water?

I have never done it in the pool or bath, I think that would be painful cause it would wash away the jelly you are using. I would not recommend trying that.
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replied July 31st, 2008
I actually thought it brought me closer to him (mentally) I had never done it before and had some serious reservations about it.
I agree with the starting slow..(fingers) For me, we had to go doggie style I just didn't have the guts to do it myself LOL
It really all comes down to how comfortable you are with your partner. Because your body tenses up so much, I would wait til your ready.
And a few shots didn't hurt!! LOL
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replied July 31st, 2008
Google a pruduct called 'innuendo anal conditioning gel'
That and plenty of lube are my suggestions.
Rememer that the anal passage doesnt self lubricate like the vaginal passage, so plenty of lube is still required no matter how turned on you are
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replied August 5th, 2008
It's a lot different than vaginal, but my boyfriend likes it. He says regular is a lot better because it's "warmer", but he still would rather have anal because he doesn't want to get me pregnant. But yeah, you really do have to relax. If your all tense and worried that it will hurt and stuff, it will. And slow is the way to go Smile
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replied August 5th, 2008
all i can say is it hurts at first but use alot of lube alot and lay on your sides and you do the work that seems to help but it took 4 years for me to get into it but i dont like it that much so i kinda see it as a waste of time for me alot of pain and time spent trying for nothing
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replied August 17th, 2008
when I did it the first time i wanted him to use a small dildo not a soft one one of those silver ones its about 1/2 inch gurth that was just to get used to something going inside my rear. After I got used to it i had him put it in and I ended up loving it, It can be such a great experience. I say with lube and a little time you can love it. good luck
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replied September 7th, 2008
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hiya i have done it a few times with my fiance and yh it does hurt at 1st he is well endowed as well which isnt easy to take but we take it slow then its really nice :0) i just tend to stay doggie for this 1 otherwise it can hurt me even if im relaxed good luck
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replied September 26th, 2008
relax....
the key is to relax...to make sure of that, only have a go once your already aroused...
lube..yes
possition...i would say doggy for the first time

it can hurt, if you dont take it slow, my advise is thast you control how fast he penitrates, once your relaxed...its a breeze.

its not everyones cup of tea...and thats prob because of first time bad experience.
the more you do it the better it gets and you will start to assosiate it with the pleasure of orgasm:)
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replied October 13th, 2008
i GIVE LOT OF ANAL
The best lube is no a vaseline but the tongue i use to give my tongue at the anus penetrate it with the tongue it can be enkarged and lubrificated naturally and the penetration is so easy, i prefer to give it in the side ,all the woman i gave oprefer in the side because in that position the penis can be feel inside the stomach
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replied December 10th, 2008
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does it hurts? .....Yes, This is not the intended function for this orifice........

What are ways to make it feel better? IMO, don't do it.....

Have you done it? Yes, tried it about two years ago...Actually one other time made a mistake and hit it....It was a mistake and a bit messy....

does it turn you on? During hot foreplay when your lover teases you around this area it is one heck of a turn on....That is what got me to try it....

is it easy? Absolutely not.....

positions for it? We did doggy.....He was against it for fear of hurting me...But I like to try everything....

Do guys like it? Guys like just about anything sexual.....I am sure it is a turn on to them but the woman can pay the price from the damage done....

How do you know if your ready for it? ...I would say if you truly want it and have done your homework on how to do it....

is it better in the pool?/water? ..You have got to be kidding....

have you done it in the water? NO......

tell me all you can.....I just did.......
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replied April 28th, 2012
does it hurts? .....If you're not properly lubricated, it is going to hurt a lot. You're going to need to be relaxed, turned on, and into the sex you're having for it be enjoyable.

What are ways to make it feel better? Anal masturbation from him is good. If he fingers you for a while, especially after having had vaginal sex, you become more aroused and ready for it. After "rimming," there should be some sort of gentle penetration with fingers or a smaller object. You have to go slow, especially the first time. You need to be lubricated without being an oily mess. Most importantly, it has to be something you both want to do.
Have you done it? I've done it with my last three boyfriends.

does it turn you on? The taboo quality of it is probably the biggest turn on, actually. But the feeling of penetration -- the sweet, slow mix of pain along with a foreign feeling of arousal -- is really nice. It's also a turn on to know that he is watching you enjoy it, and being turned on by that. For men that really are into the posterior, it's really hot to know that he wants you completely, and is enjoying the view as well as trying something new.

is it easy? If you've set yourself up for success, yes.

positions for it? Doggy seems to be the best for it. I recommend having him, with a well-lubricated condom on (to eliminate some of the poo issues), gently and slowly put himself inside you. Then, it's easiest if you back yourself into him, controlling the speed and pressure of the encounter. As you become more comfortable and your body is more accepting of his penis in your bum, you can let him become more in control. The feeling of him pulling your hips back and readjusting you so that he can best control you and getting himself off is very hot.
Do guys like it? I like it. Not a lot. Wouldn't want it often, but I'd be disappointed if I was told it was never going to happen again in my life.
How do you know if your ready for it? ...You either find it appealing or you don't. If you don't, then don't do it. It's not going to suddenly be sexy and turn you on because it's happening. If you're uptight about it, it's only going to hurt. If you're too stressed, you could really be injured. If you have to question whether or not it turns you on, you're probably never going to be ready for it. It's just not your thing.

is it better in the pool?/water? ..Sex never is -- you lose all the lubricant, and for anal sex you definitely want that lubricant there

have you done it in the water? NO

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replied December 10th, 2008
it is nice
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