My girlfriend of 12 months left me, over the phone. We were having problems for the last few months but we agreed that it was because of the distance (we live almost 200 miles aways)... we usually saw each other two times a months but we were waiting till we could both be in the same city in a few months from now. When she left me I didn't quite believe it, i hadn't accepted it was possible that she didn't love me anymore and it took such a longer time to make sense of it all. it got worse when she would randomly text me or ring me which gave me hope. one morning a friend showed me a link to something she had posted on the internet saying that she has met someone new etc... for the past two months i have had days where i could't eat, anxiety, and every night i've only fallen asleep when my body finally gives up and passes out - which is usually around 6/7am. i also tried to commit suicide twice since the break-up. one time was when she arrange to meet me then stood me up last minute. i never realised how much love could affect someone. i don't see myself or want anyone else. and although she treated me like crap (cheated on me once) i still love her and i go through phases of not wanting to live without her. help!
plz try not to stay lonely...always be occupied to avoid sily thought into ur head...life goes on dear...if u kill urself, dat wont stop her from moving on...everytin has its reason..maybe a better person awaits u...so stop suckin and pull urself up....i hav been in ur shoes
Im sorry that you have to go through all of this; but unfortunately love is hard. And it has its ups and downs.It seems that she left you because of the distance between you guys; but the truth is distance has no effect on love. When you love someone you forget how far you are because no matter how far it seems you will always feel so close. in this case i honestly believe she didnt truly love you. She made have cared for you and took tht as love. Love isnt giving up on each other, its fighting for what you have left. You are still fighting but she isnt and that should truly show you how much you mean to her. i wont tell you to forget about her or just move on, because its going to be and its gonna take alot of time. But i will tell you that you seem like a smart, beautiful, loving man that deserves alot better. I suggest you let her know that you will always be here for her and you love her but you just cant wait forever on her. I can promise you one thing, she will come back to you; but its going to be your choice to take her back in. And as for the eating and sleeping, just take a deep breathe, eat your favorite meal, take a nice warm shower, and relax. Love will always find its way.
Im feeling the same way now, too, so I know exactly how you feel. Dont try suicide again. You havent dated so long--maybe your feelings will still pass. Also, dont tell her about suicide--she will probably despise you and think youre a wuss. Besides, if she cheated you like crap, do you want to become her victim? You would be dead and she wouldnt even care--date another guy a week later, you know? Its not worth it.
For me, doing things I like, trying to date someone else, etc. completely didnt help. For me, convincing myself that she treated me bad and she doesnt deserve my love also didnt help.
If you absolutely cant forget her, maybe you still have a chance. She dated you before, it means there is something good about you. Maybe try to win her heart--flowers to her work, thoughtful gifts, etc. Maybe you can improve yourself in a way that would impress her--muscles, or take up some exciting activity.