Do you give er.. suggestions to your bf while your having sex or giving oral?
Or just straight up show your guy what and how you like things.

You are not the only one. I can't believe I ran across this post. I am 37 years old and got married when I was 17. I was married to my first husband for 14 years and never had an orgasm with him, strange but true. I thought something was wrong with me because I had never experienced it with him or myself. We got divorced and I remarried. Somewhere in between the divorce and remarriage I found myself in the pleasure of my own orgasm. But can't seem to get there the same way with my husband as I do with myself. I come so close it is really frustrating. I don't know what to do about it as well. Sorry I can't help and tell you what to try or do. But I'm here to talk if you want

Do you watch porn when you masturbate?

Maybe he isn't doing it right. Have you thought about talking him through it? Some guys like it when you talk to them during sex!

did u ever had an orgasm while having sex ,mayb u might have some mental inhibitions during your early chilhood ,that had left a impression on your subconsious mind ,that may be playing havoc ,try tantra sex.

It's often because he doesn't do it the way you're used to, so you don't get any pleasure from it.

Here's what I suggested to someone else with this problem:

Masturbate in front of him, and then just as you're about to orgasm, have him take over. If you need to, go all the way TO orgasm and have him stimulate you during the aftershocks. You need to become comfortable with him! You need to teach your body to respond to his touch, too.