Hi all! I have been with my partner for 6.5 yrs and love her very much, we spend as much time together as possible and we get along better than any couple I have ever come across, she is a very sweet and beautiful girl of 24, has some shy tendencies but is very well liked and quickly comes out of her shell. We have been through some hard times e.g shortage of money and family bereavements but were always there for each other no matter what.

Sorry to waffle on with the above but I just wanted to give a bit of a background on us as a couple and how I feel about my partner, I'm hope knowing some of the above may aid me in getting advice.

Unfortunately the only flaw in our relationship is my partner has a very low or nearly non-existent libido, it's a very confusing and frustrating subject for me but I have tried to be as understanding through out our relationship nearly to the point of what feels like celibacy as the last time we had sex was over 6 months ago, although I'm not counting.

As a male with a average sex drive it is hard to understand what it would feel like to have know libido, I have had approximately 10 previous sexual relationships in the past where I have never had the same problem with another partner, but I know every person is different and has different drives and ways of being aroused.

I feel I am experienced and sensitive to a females wants and needs and know that it's not all about sex but I long to have a normal sexual relationship with my partner, I have always kept myself physically fit and active and never had problems with achieving female attention(my way of saying I don't think I'm ugly)so this aids my confusion to why my partner would not want sex with me.

I feel overall that it's a combination that my partner gets sore during sex and lack of libido, I always act out foreplay and spend allot of time to make sure shes as lubricated and aroused as possible naturally but we also use other lubricants to help prevent soreness, although she does still tend to end up sore, I have made many of my other partners in the past sore and have been told I am quite well en- dowered however it has never caused sexual problems, and generally I'm aware soreness during sex is common irrespective of size.

My partner has never instigated the want for sex in the 6.5 years we have been together, she does come across as a bit prudish towards sex but I think this more down to personal embarrassment on the subject(she is not the sort of person to talk about sex with others and kinda the same with me, I make the conversation and she's quick to change it).

I know shes physically attracted to me as she always compliments me on my appearance but I try and look upon it as I'm a non driver and I may like the look of a car but I have know want to drive it, I just have know need or interest to drive. To want to do something whether it be sex or drive a car you must have the physical urge to do it and if I did get in a car and it burnt me every time I wouldn't want to drive it even more, sorry if that's a rubbish analogy but that's my way of understanding.

Well that's allot longer text wise than I expected to write but I have had 6.5 years to think about it and this is the first time I have consulted outside advice so thought I better be thorough in my explanation oh and just to clarify my partner definitely doesn't have depression, she has her bad days but don't we all, generally she seems very happy and yes she is on a contraceptive pill but she took 6 months off it recently to see if it would change her libido and it had know effect what so ever and have no children but on the downside she does seem to be un-energetic, tired and sleeps allot but is not over worked (she has been in many different jobs through out our relationship and some have been more demanding than others but being un-energetic and tired remains the same however I'm very active and try and think of things she would be interested in but she tends to have little drive, more a girly girl that prefers shopping and dining out and that's fine with me).

We have been looking at some products online for enhancing female libido but there's so many, advice from others that have used supplements would be appreciated and generally any advice would be great, Thanks!