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Q: Feeling out of control ?

asked by: MothermayI on July 21st, 2009

New User

I'm 14 weeks pregnant with my third child. I have a 3 year old and a 9month old. This current pregnancy was unplanned. As if it weren't bad enough that my boyfriend and father of these three children doesn't have a job. But he decided that he doesn't want to be involved anymore since I cannott have sex. ( I have a low lying plecenta) Suddenly, I don't really feel too well. I cry all day. I sleep 12 hours at a time ( and I make my other two kids go back to bed when they wake up). I am on summer vacation right now so i'm home with my kids all day but I will return to work in two weeks. I don't know how I will be able to handle it. I can't cry all day at work. I need help. But i'm so scared to tell my doctor about how I feel. I think that if they know i'm depressed they will take my kids away. I would never hurt my kids. I just feel so different. What can I do?

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Mariee2009

replied on July 21st, 2009

Experienced User

Thats sounds pretty bad, but they really shouldnt take your kids away? Anyone would feel like that in your situation. You feel like theres no one there to help you, you probably get tired from the other children. Plus, with all the stress, thats not good for your baby! Im not so sure what you can do about it, but going to your doctor or going to see a councilor can really help. Maybe it could make things easier if you applied for day care. Maybe since you are the only one with a job, you maybe could qualify for state funded daycare. That would give you a break to relax. I hope things get better for you.

illustriously fickle

replied on July 23rd, 2009

Experienced User

In my opinion, it's much better to talk about feeling low instead of stuffing it. Depression is common during pregnancy, and talking about how you feel can open new doors and you can be informed of new options. I'd suggest that you do talk with your doctor, or schedule a visit with a counselor through your community health center (if you have one).

favery

replied on July 24th, 2009

New User

Hello, I am new to this sight and I can verify with how you feel Mariee. I thought I could make it but I proved myself wrong Right around 16 weeks I finally came out to my OB. I did choose the medication route but a very low dosage I feel if I did not then the depression would just get worse. Yes, in the beginning I was very concerned about harmful side effects to my baby but I could not see anything else helping so I just prayed about it. I understand pregnancy brings alot of unexpected physical, mental and emotional wear on a womans body. I just wanted so bad to feel better and this is the main reason why I choose the medicine plus I wanted to be emotionally well when he arrives.

breck08

replied on July 25th, 2009

Supporter

Definitely discuss your feelings with your physician. You are experiencing what I call "mommy overload." Surround yourself with a support group. Is your mom around or someone you can turn to?

Mariee2009

replied on July 26th, 2009

Experienced User

Favery, you are right. Even though medication can cause harm, stress can too! Stress can cause so many things to happen in your body. It can cause many difficulties with the childbirth, and even after birth. I think that any harm done by the medication can be compared to the harm done from the depression and stress you could go through.

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