I'v been feeling really low for some time now,i'v always been painfully shy but have coped with it as best i could.i like my own company and have never liked crowds or parties ect so find excuses not to go.Im married and have 5 grown up children.My husband is a heavy drinker and is very hard to live with but since he was diagnosed with prostate cancer 6 years ago i felt i had to stick with him.2 of my sons moved back home last october because of work and since then i hav'nt had any time on my own,there wives and children visit regually and i feel like im going insane.I work 3 days a week and also help my 85 year old mother with some odd jobs.All i ask is some ME time which i cant see happening any time soon.My dr suggested some counseling at the surgery but as i dont drive and find it difficult to get their she suggested this site.It would be great to talk to someone as my family dont understand.
well at first you need to get your kids to not run to mommy all the time they are grown kids they can take care of there self and there wife's they need to take care of there kids yea its k that they come from time to time but let them now to give you time try just saying im going out and tell them to take care of them self don't look back just get your stuff and go have fun with friends just no matter what let them learn on there own ps im only 15 lol hopes it makes you giggle kinda inside hope my words helped
hello, i know how your feeling to a point. i'm looking after a friend with anarexia, takes up nearly all my time and the stress of it is slowly killing me. i know you said your shy so i think counciling will only help a little. what you need to try to do is get help in getting out with people. you said your husband as cancer, well there is help out there for family members who care for people with cancer, they can help you get out and have some freedom, and please tell your kids your there mother not a door mat .. be strong ..