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Hi,

Short About Me: I am 24 years old, I have a really stressful job in IT, moved out of home at a young age, been in a relationship for 8 years now.

What happend to me: After a stressful day, my girlfriend decided to go for supper. While we where at the table talking and I suddenly got an overwhelming feeling that I was LOSING control. Basically I felt like I had drifted away from reality and suddenly come back. I went to the restroom to get a quick drink of water. Felt really weird? Started shaking, confused, diarrhea, vomiting etc.

I went to a doctor and he checked my sugar levels and he said it was fine. He said I might have a bug and because I have not been sick really in my life I was not used to the feeling and maybe started to panic, he also gave me some anti-biotics for the “bug” and put me on Xanor (Some calming tablet).

Since that day I have not been the same. The first couple of months were the worst.

Symptoms:
- Tingling in hands.
- Tremors.
- Pains in head.
- Stiff neck.
- Eye Twitch.
- Numbness in fingers.
- Feel disconnected from reality.
- Feeling like I am dying of something.
- Constant worry that I going to go mad one day.
- Feel like losing mind.
- Constantly tired.
- Restless Sleep.
- Blurred Vision somethings
- Eyes sensitive to light.
- Slurred Speech sometimes, most when "Spaced out pretty bad".
- And More…..

In the first couple of months I went for blood tests, eye tests, a MRI scan (without contrast), EEG. I have also been to a psychologist, and psychiatrist. The psychiatrist said I have an anxiety disorder and started putting for on many different drugs like Venlor XR, Rivotril, Lamictin. I stopped going to him because he just kept increasing my medications or changing them. The psychologist says I have not dealt with things in my life and have had to be mentally 40 years old from a young age. My mother died 2 years ago as well and my father left to Ireland just before her death. I did not grieve her death at all.

Well a year later I am still alive, not near as many symptoms. But the one that is freaking me out it this spaced out, disconnect from reality feeling. It seems to get worse when in public or speaking to a person directly (one to one). I still get brain zaps every now and then. I also used to get slurred speech a little.

Has anyone got these type of symptoms? Any idea what I can do or what it could be? Should I go to more doctors?

Thanks in advance
Peter
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replied April 10th, 2009
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Hi there Peter

You don't seem to be drinking enough water.
Some people can not hydrate on chlorinated water because of allergic reactions. Chlorine is a dangerous chemical. It was used in wars to kill people. The last time it was used as a weapon of mass destruction was during the reign of Saddam Hussein. More than 5000 people were killed by it. You also have a spinal misalignment in the upper part of your neck, where the neck joins the skull. Some of the muscles in that area are too tight, in particular, a muscle called obliquus capitis inferior, massaging the base of the skull all around, from ear to ear will show you where the painful area is. Do this regularly.
The upper trapezius muscle runs from the base of the skull along all the neck vertebrae to the outer third of the collarbone and top of the shoulder blade. Dehydration causes that muscle to tighten up and pull the neck vertebrae out of their normal position
Massage the base of the neck (C7) will reset the muscle. Or, better still get your partner to sink her elbows into this area. It will be painfull but beneficial. Drink lots of clean filtered water. get a cheap water filter. or leave a waterfilled container out in the sun for a while. The chlorine will dissipate as gas, after which the water is ok to drink.
Make sure to drink water right through the day. The more stress, the water you need.

Kinetico
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replied April 11th, 2009
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Hi Kinetico,

This is a interesting way of looking at what is wrong with me. I will give the clean water a try. Do you really think this could make a person feel space out and tired all the time?

Thanks,
Peter Guest
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replied April 11th, 2009
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Hi there Peter

It happens all the time!
80% of the people we see in our healing center is dehydrated. Some come in swinging liitle water bottles, of which they take an occasional sip, but what most of us need is at least a couple of liters a day, more as our stress levels go up. people tend to drink coffee (a diuretic) tea (Diuretic) Soft drink (Diuretic) Cola's(diuretics) beer (diuretic) and rarely think of drinking what we are supposed to be drinking. WATER! Most of the people I see with back problems have back problems because they are dehydrated. As I mentioned before, often people have troubles hydrating because of a chlorine allergy. The body can not utilise anything it is allergic to and lots of people are allergic to chlorine.
In one European country that I know of warnings were printed in newspapers telling people to take short showers in well ventilated areas, after some were found unconscious in the shower or bath. Overcome by chlorine gas
Give it a try!

kinetico
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replied April 15th, 2011
he answer is clear, your psychologist is right "
. The psychologist says I have not dealt with things in my life and have had to be mentally 40 years old from a young age. My mother died 2 years ago as well and my father left to Ireland just before her death. I did not grieve her death at all"

all of what your dealing w/ is underlying stress, the symptoms of underlying stress... anxiety usually pops up on us, bc we try to stuff down feelings..or not deal w/ them at all... let yourself morn for your mother , take some time off if possible at your stress ful job, and of course your going to need time to heal ......

and don't worry your aren't going mad if you were going to be mentally ill, it would have shown itself at a young age in your life.... just relax give yourself time to greive and hit the beach and get some "me" time in too


hope you get better Smile)
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replied May 11th, 2009
Hi peterg012,

I've been stuck with the exact same thing for the past year.
I'm sure it probably gradually crept up on me but one day it hit me really hard and landed me in the ER. I felt totally disconnected from reality, had major problems concentrating, couldnt carry a conversation.

Here are my symptoms:

- Feeling disconnected from reality, talking with someone and feeling like you're not there, spaced out, day dreaming/disconnected.. though to explain, if you have it you know what I'm talking about.
- Feeling un-well, cant quite put my finger on that one.
- Always exhausted.
- Feeling surreal.
- Feel like I'm loosing my mind.
- Felling like there's pressure in my head, a buzzing sensation sometimes.
- Feel like I'm going to pass out at times. Never did but that's the feeling.
- Problems concentrating, I have to re read the same line 2, 3 times so it registers kind of deal.
- Nausea
- Add pretty much your entire list of symptoms.

So far I've had complete blood work done twice, everything came back negative.
Seen a Neurologist and had a cat scan, she said there's nothing physically wrong with my brain.
Seen a Ent. Ear/Throat specialist in case of Labyrinthitis.. everything checked out fine.
Seen a Endocrinoligyst, thyroid, hormones, all good.
Seen about 3 Generalists, they have no idea.
That was last year, took a break to re-group.
Last month I went to a Naturopath (running out of ideas), she suggested I cut all stimulants like cafeine, alcohol,also went off dairy and weat and asparthame.
Her theory was something called Adrenal fatigue, we're always stimulating our system and after a

while it's less efficient at keeping our energy levels up..
Cutting the cafeine did wonders for sleeping but other than that, absolutely no improvement.
She also suggested I take anti Candidat supplements. No improvements

We have water purifier in the house and only drink out of that or bottled water, I drink about 1.5L to 2.0L per day without counting other types of drinks, no improvements.

I'm 34 and workout about 3 to 4 times a week, physically I'm in excellent shape.

I have an appointment with another generalist this Thursday, I'm going to ask him to give me a B12 injection and I might also try anti depressants..

How can this be so difficult to diagnose, I've seen tons of posts in numerous forums about the exact same condition as ours yet no one seem to be able to put a diagnostic on it.

I'll keep pushing doctors for a diagnosis.

Suggestions and ideas on what could be wrong would be greatly appreciated.
I'll keep you guys posted.

Thanks and gl!

K.
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replied April 1st, 2013
Hey guys. For all of us out here suffering from this whatever it is, there is hope. I suffered with these same feeling of disconnection for years. After coming back from Iraq I began to seek help for symptoms of PTSD, while talking to the psychologist about what I was feeling ( my symptoms dramatically increased after Iraq) I was put on the anti-anxiety medication Efexor XR. Now I won't say thats this is a miracle drug, but I am somewhat the guy I was before all my symptoms started years ago. Go talk to a mental health professional explain how you feel and see if they think that it could be anxiety or some other form of mental health disorder. In my line of work there is alot of stigma that goes along with seeking help if I had paid attention to it I would not be where I am today enjoying life 10 times more than I use too with my wife and family. Here is a link to to a test for Depersonalization Disorder Check it out see how you score. http://www.strangerinthemirror.com/questio nnaire.html
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replied May 19th, 2009
I have exactly the same symptoms
im 17 and what you have described is exactly how i feel, it's awful, yet when you go to the dovtors they look at you like your making it all up, it's anooying me i want a cure Sad
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replied May 19th, 2009
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Hi Kreegrr and Benjamingoody,

Very weird that we are all having the same type of symptons and can't find a solution.

Maybe we should look for some common similarities between us - for all we know we could be on "medical detectives"! LOL

I am still playing with the idea that I had a panic attack and are now kinda stuck "mentally" in that state or just got really scared and it is my minds way of protecting me.

I am starting to lose faith in some doctors - then tend to jump to the first possible diagnosis rather than looking at the big picture. Maybe we have the beginning stages of Schizophrenia....I hope not!

How you all doing now?
Peter
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replied October 14th, 2013
Dude I'd like to talk to you personally on the phone. Trying to find similarities about us is a good Idea my phone # is 4109418869
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replied May 25th, 2009
a couple years ago i started getting panic attacks havnt had them recently but i feel like i am not really here that im just watching everyone else i dont even realize sometimes that people can see me. i space out really bad as if my life is a dream or tv screen. i feel so disconnected that i try and visualize the worst things that could happen to me just so i can feel a little emotion and i still feel numb. when i do feel emotions its overwhelming anger. i dont feel right. i think there is something wrong with me.
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replied May 27th, 2009
Same for me too
I get the disconnected-from-reality feeling. Sometimes I'll be sitting there at dinner, and suddenly I'll feel like my body is upside down and I'm hanging from the ceiling. Sometimes I begin to feel so disconnected from reality that I think I'm going to pass out, but I never do.

I also get weird sensations all over my body, my chest will hurt or my leg will feel like it's detached, I'll get pains and jabs and other weird sensations in my head.

I gave up on doctors because they could never find anything wrong, so I just put all these events down to anxiety or a panic disorder. If you know you're having a panic attack, you know you can deal with it and it will be alright, but the trouble with panic attacks is they come in many different shapes and sizes, and sometimes it's impossible to tell if the symptoms you have are a panic attack in a new disguise, or a physical problem.
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replied June 2nd, 2009
this is weird it sounds like u guys all have the same symptoms as me iv been sitting in my apartment day after day being terrified of having cancer or something, pretty much too scared to go to a doctor. weird feelings like a weird disconnected feeling in my face and hands, not like a numbness o weakness but just a strange sensation of being disconnected. it seems like its not so bad when i first wake up in the morning but i dont know. like the other day i was talking to people and holding a glass of water and several times i thought i was going to slurr my speach or become disconnected from my mouth for a split second. i was scared they would all freak out lol. anyway i have suffered from a few panic attacks when i was younger always had problems getting along with my parents. anyone get any kind of an idea out of their doctors on these symptoms PLZ PUT THEM UP HERE im very interested in wut u have to say.
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replied June 17th, 2009
Wow I am glad to have found a forum where people are describing the same symptoms. I am 20 years old, and have just returned from living in europe for 6 months. About two months after i returned i noticed that one week i started to feel a bit dazed out. But i mean i just figured i was tired etc. But then one day i just could not snap out of it. And it has been two months of this. Feel disconnected from reality.
- Feeling like I am dying of something.
- Constant worry that I going to go mad one day.
- Feel like losing mind.
- Constantly tired.
-developed anxiety
I mean somedays are better than others. But recently it has gotten a bit worse... more dazed. I mean sometimes i dont even know how i go about my normal day. I just do it.
I never had anxiety before, but now i do. I get anxiety when around big groups of people, to go on planes or even now i was doing exams and i had a anxiety attack.
I dont want to see a doc unless extremly necessary. I have been doing positiving thinking instead, and started excersing.
Feeling totally offbalance. Any suggestions? Would going to a doc do any good..or will they just subscribe me pills to deal with it. (which i do not want to do)
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replied July 4th, 2009
It's good to finally know that i'm not the only one who feels this sense of being "disconnected" from the world... i mean, its a horrible feeling, but it does bring some sense of comfort knowing that i'm not experiencing something completely out of the ordinary. i'm 23 years old and have been feeling this way for a little more than two years now. i do have OCD and anxiety problems, but could never connect the feeling i have to being overwhelmed. it's just how my perception has changed into. I feel like im not physically living life. I'm just on auto pilot. I'm not sure if its from being on meds for many years or what, but it has definitely made me feel like im missing out on life itself. Not only that, but i constantly feel lightheaded. I went to the doctor about it. He took my blood pressure, did bloodwork - nothing was wrong. He said i was fine. I'm not hypoglycemic or anything. I went to my psychologist to find out why i felt this way, and she said it's a form of depression. In some aspects i could see why points of my life this would make sense, but for a while now i've been far from depressed. I've been happy. Yet i still feel disconnected with what is going on around me. ESPECIALLY when im outside. While inside my house i'm pretty much fine. Its very strange. Maybe i need to get out of my house more? I do work from home and i am on the computer most of the day. Could this have anything to do with it? Just as we are all looking for answers, I will keep everyone and anyone up to date if i ever find out what exactly causes these feelings, because personally i think it's pretty pathetic that no doctor can tell us why we feel this way. Help =\
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replied July 5th, 2009
I'm 24 years old now, and I have been experiencing the same symptoms as above for about 2 years now, maybe longer. It's really "good" to know that other people feel the exact same way as I do, although I wish none of us had to feel this way. It's really a weird thing to go through, and I think the "disconnection" part is the hardest thing to explain.

As for myself, I had a head injury about 3 years ago in which I went through intense emotional anxiety for a period of 12 hours (basically coughing up blood and thinking I was going to die or go paralyzed -- long story). Anyway, that eventually led me to completely drop out of college after completing 3 1/2 years of 4.0 grades. One year later I'm signing up for the Navy. Now I'm one year into the Navy and the whole disconnection from reality seems to have only gotten worse.

On one hand I'm getting used to the anxiety and learning how to handle stress. But is it really a good thing to get used to these things? It doesn't necessarily mean they are going away. And I feel like there's an infinite distance between my past life (where I was happy) and now -- as if before a few years ago was only a dream.

3 years ago:
Fun loving, studious, outgoing, happy, KID

Now:
Not one friend, no interest in making any, no interest in tomorrow, no passion

It's like it doesn't matter to me that I'm here...and I don't really feel "here" most of the time anyway. Sometimes I feel like I'm just here waiting...watching...hoping for SOMETHING to happen that snaps me out of this. Something to remind me that I'm still alive and something to remind me that it still matters that I AM alive...

Anybody know what I mean?
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replied March 27th, 2012
I feel the exact same way you do. Im 20 years old now and for the first 18 and a half years I was a happy go lucky guy, had tons of friends and just enjoyed life in general. I went to college straight out of high school and I had my first panic attack when i smoked weed up there. It wasnt the first time i had smoked either. I thought i was dying, but i just went back to my room and slept it off. the next day i was fine. as the year went on i started to get overcome with stress from school(grades were terrible and i just hated being there). With this stress i started having panic attacks regularly. Eventually i started to just feel really weird all the time, basically the disconnected from reality feeling. I went to the doctor over my christmas break and had blood work, EKG, and all the other check ups done and everything came back normal. The doctor tried to put me on an antidepressant but i didnt do it. didnt want to be on meds. i went back to school in january and it just got worse. I had no interest in girls no interest and partying, nothing. it was just like i was kinda cruising day to day with no passion. so i went to the doctor again that summer convinced i needed meds. i was put on paxil. i took it for about a month and it helped my anxiety tremendously, but the depression/spaced out feeling was still and is still there. i dont know what else to do. i guess i could go get some meds specifically for depression? but i feel like if i go to my parents about the issue again it will just bug them because ive told them time and time again that im fine and im doing much better, which in reality im just telling them this so they wont worry about me. I just want to feel emotion again. i want to be back to my old self! i cant even hardly look someone in the eye without feeling weird about it. without feeling like my eyes are doing something funny and thats all i think about when having a conversation with someone. I just want someone to tell me what to do!!!!!
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replied July 3rd, 2012
Ah2010,

I am also 20 years old (student at Texas Tech), and I experience the exact same thing as everyone posting on here. I'm happy i'm not the only person dealing with whatever this is.
I, like you, had a panic attack when I smoked weed (a long time before you, when I was 13). I attribute the way I feel to smoking and the feelings it brought out. I had smoked other times besides the four or so that made me have anxiety attacks. Each time it just reminded me why I wouldn't do it again.
I feel very disconnected from reality at times. It is at its height when I am very tired and am in a hot or humid condition. It seems as though it gets worse. During the school year it's not as bad because I don't work and I have much more time to relax, but when I come home I go to work full time as a lifeguard. I was going great for the first month or so. I was working pretty much every day about 40-45 hours a week. I was either swimming or playing soccer every day and was starting to go to bed early and waking up early and was getting on a great schedule.
Then while i'm sitting on stand in the humid pool the feelings started to come back. For me, they seem to come in the same order every time. First I get a heightened sense of detachment which just like being high on weed makes me very scared because I dont feel as though Im in control of myself. That leads to me panicking and having to calm myself down the best I can.
Im tired of dealing with these feelings/perceptions. Im not exactly like some of the posters on here. I am not always depressed or anxious. I go through periods of highs and lows which just leads me to believe that chemicals in my brain are not at correct levels (Im not a doctor). I saw my doctor yesterday, and blood work is being done, but I highly doubt anything will be found. Ive had a physical every year since I was 13 and they are all normal. I have an appointment with a Psychologist in a couple of weeks.
Hopefully I can figure something out. Im just glad I am not the only one.
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replied November 25th, 2012
I am so glad I found this page, I feel exactly like you describe. Down to the exact feeling I had when I smoked weed for the first and last time. I described it( when I was high) like feeling "like a creature". I felt as though I was in someone else's body. That was a year and a half ago.
I'v always had anxiety issues though.
Well, last night it happened all of the sudden, it just hit me. I felt disconnected and my body felt very.. overstimulated? Like say I ran my hand down my arm, it felt like 20 hands where behind it doing the same. My whole body felt this way. It is is disabling.
I took some Nerve Tonic, its a natural anxiety vitamin. I highly recommend it if you don't want to take meds. It takes two to get me out of my panic attacks though. When I finally fell asleep last night I still had very intense and panicy dreams. I woke up feeling the exact same way. I do believe I am going to go see a doctor. I almost was at the point of going to the hospital this morning. I've had some Postpartum Anxiety, since my son was born. I think this may be linked. Who knows..
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replied July 7th, 2009
Give Lexapro a Shot
Hello everybody, glad I found this forum. I have the same symptoms as all of you. Just this bizarre feeling of disconnection, as if you feel like your body and mind are separated....as if you are staring out through your eyes and seeing everything happening but not making any sense of it....like you are a being within your mind and trapped inside your head. ANYWAYS, I am almost certain that these are symptoms of General Anxiety Disorder. And with this, there is a close relationship with Panic Disorder. For me, they go hand in hand. I have been taking Lexapro for the past 6 weeks ago or so and it has helped dramatically. I suggest you all talk to your doctors about this medication, which is good for treating either anxiety or depression or both simultaneously. Additionally, for my panic disorder i take Ativan. It works wonders for panic attacks. For those of you trying to not take medication and just help yourselves spiritually or mentally, i would say give Lexapro a shot. The reason for anxiety and depression disorders is a chemical imbalance in your brain. And just trying on your own is not going to improve that.
Lexapro is a part of the drug class known as SSRI's....which stands for Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitor. Let me explain. There are millions of nerves in your brain and the drug serotonin helps to regulate feelings of happiness and mood stability. The way this natural chemical moves through out your brain is by jumping from nerve to nerve. Now the serotonin must "jump" between the synapses of each nerve ending. Once serotonin leaves the nerve ending, in a "normal person", a portion of the serotonin will jump to the next nerve ending while the remaining portion is sucked back up into the original nerve ending. This "sucking back up" is known as "reuptake". In people who have anxiety and depression problems, the original nerve endings suck up too much of the serotonin and not enough of it passes on to the next nerve ending, so there is too much reuptake. SSRI's help to prevent the reuptake process in people with too much anxiety and depression so that more of the serotonin can move through brain nerves and create more chemical balance within the brain.
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replied July 27th, 2009
I am so glad I found this post as most of you have said the same. I am 44 years old and have always been so outgoing and the "life of the party" kind of guy. I have lost interest in things of that nature and just kind of go day to day with all these symptoms you people are speaking of. I have a n 8 year old daughter who I finally got full custody about a year ago or so. I think this might have something to do with it, not that I can;t habdle my duaghter, but just that she has been through so much already in her life and I get "panicked" all the time about her. I stress and get high anxeiety trying to make sure she has a good life. I think I might have forgot who I was was trying to prevent this and have somehow regulated myself to the robot I am today. Thanks to everyone here for posting their concerns. It does feel good to know there are more than just me out there living in the surreal world. Not that I wish this on any of us. Also, I have been to the doctor e times. Xrays, catdcans, blood work, and the such. Nothing is wrong with me. Yeah Right! Anyway. I am going to print off and take these testimonial to my doctor and see if maybe the Lexapro thing might be what I need. I HAVE to be here for my baby girl. Thanks again everyone.

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replied July 28th, 2009
stop thinking its physical, its mental
nothing is physically wrong with you guys. its not the water or anything else physical. i work in a psych ward and have anxiety myself. its anxiety simply put. Seriously thats all it is. you had you first anxiety break which is almost always triggered with a panic attack. my advice would to be stop going to medical doctors because youre just trying to figure yourself out which is a form of anxiety. looks like you got youself an anxiety disorder or just real anxious. go to a psychiatrist and get on some anxiety meds. it may take a while for them to work but they will, promise. therapy helps too.
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replied April 15th, 2011
i Garee w/ you aphordite Smile it is all menatal, and its usually due to the stress that caused it in the first place.... I think once we identify the stressor and makes some changes you guys can reclaim your life.. it worked for me Smile
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replied August 18th, 2009
Got to say that interesting as it is to find so many people with similar symptoms this page is actually HIGHLY unhelpful as it gives no real advise on whats wrong or how to fix it.

All this page does is make me feel like lots more people are continuing to suffer without any answers which is of little comfort to myself
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replied August 24th, 2009
I have tried telling myself in my head constantly for a week "I'm okay" "calm" It seems to hel because your brain is on hyperactive mode so by telling it over and over again that you're okay it starts to calm down a little bit. I plan on saying it to myself for as long as it takes. Try it. It might work for you too.
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replied September 1st, 2009
did some research, it's called depersonalization/derealization. so for all turns up no known cure....... bad news for us.
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replied September 1st, 2009
I disagree that there is no hope. It helps to fully understand what is happening in the brain.
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