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Q: Feeling depressed again
asked by: Emmy89 on August 9th, 2009
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Hi, a few months ago i posted here about feeling down and depressed and hopeless. I explained all the bad things going on in my life and it helped a lot just to get it out, and knowing that there was somebody out there who cared enough to try and help me. I guess thats why im here. I have spent the last few months concentrating on what is good in my life and have still had days where life seemed hopeless, but looking on the brightside as they say seemed to be working. I have tried to spend as much time as possible with the most important people in my life. But now i feel particularly down again, its like as soon as i see the light at the end of the tunnel, someone builds a bloody extension to it. To make things worse, my oldest friend has decided she isn't bothered about my friendship anymore, and i know that can sound like a trivial teen problem, but i have known her since i was four and we have been close for most of this time, but when she left for university she moved on and left me behind, as did another of my friends, now i have only two close friends left and i am terrified of losing them too, because i mean i am nothing special, im not that interesting, i try to be funny, but friendships can last on that alone. Why should they choose to hold onto our friendship? Life is getting on top of me again, and thoough i havent considered suicide again, i do feel i'd be better off dead.
Im glad just to get it off my chest, but still do not know what to do, can i keep pulling myself out of this?
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ServiceU
replied on August 12th, 2009
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i battled with depression on and off for a very long time. i think your depressed because you feel as though your friends as left you behind.
i've known my best friend when she was pregnant with her first child, and now she is married and have five kids, and i moved 1000's of miles away. she has been my friend for 11 years and she will always be my friend. i met other people but she is the one that understands me better.
i try to stay positive when im depressed. i always have negative thoughts but i changed it with something positive.
talk to your friends and tell them how you feel.
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Emmy89
replied on August 13th, 2009
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I know what your saying is best, but im scared that they will treat me differently, i dont want them to watch what they say around me for fear of upsetting me. Also im scared that if i admit it to them i will actually have to face up to all this and deal with it. I have been hiding from it for so long that the thought of admitting that yeah im not coping too well at the moment abosolutelly terrifies me.
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missellie
replied on September 17th, 2009
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I think you need to talk to your friends about what you're dealing with. When I had depression, it was very hard to talk to people about it because I wasn't sure if they would understand and I was ashamed- but then, after I had overcome depression and was strong enough to be able to talk to people about it, especially my friends, they always told me that I should have come and talked to them, that they would have tried to understand and they would have been there to support me. My best friend, whom I met after I had overcome depression, told me that she wished she had known me then because she had wanted to support me and make sure I always knew she was there. They didn't treat me any differently. Part of getting over depression is coming to terms with it: you must face it. It's just going to keep burdening you until you do. Don't be ashamed of the fact that you have depression- it doesn't mean you're weak of unable to handle things. It's a serious condition and people die from it. Overcoming depression is one of the most courageous and hardest things a person, like me, can do. You can do it too. Smile
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Emmy89
replied on September 26th, 2009
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Thanks missellie, Im gunna try my best to tell them, i know you're right, they will understand, its still difficult because i am known as the joker of the group, and somehow this doesnt quite match up with that. About now would be a good time to tell them too, because i feel like i am coping better again, and everything is less muddled in my head. If that makes sense...

Thank you again for your support.
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missellie
replied on September 26th, 2009
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I'm really glad that you're going to tell them. Smile I know how you feel- I was always the one who could make a joke out of anything. And going from so happy and outgoing to so sad and withdrawn was a shock as I'm sure it was to you. It's good that you're thinking more clearly and coping better.

If you ever need to talk, I'm here.
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