hi, so im a 25 year old female that lives alone. i have never been abel to have a relationship that lasted longer than maybe 3 weeks :/ i have been on numerous dating websites and get lots of attention but only from people wanting sex!
i am getting so upset and down i really feel like i will be single forever all my friends are in relationships and have compleatly settled down so i dont really see many of them anymore and when i do it just gets me down to hear and see how happy they are together.
i am so board of looking and useing dateing sites but i really dont know where i am supposed to meet people these days cos meeting in clubs and pubs really doesnt work ether cos the people you meet out there are drunk and only after sex.
i always get used for sex and i really cant take it any more.
I just don't understand the human race. people tell me im stunning and beautiful all the time and all my friends really cant understand why i am still single and struggle so much to find someone. i am also a very sociable person and people always seem to like me so can someone please tell me exactly what is wrong with me???
i don't feel that i have low self esteem i am very happy with every other aspect of my like. i work and i have hobbies that i love. but being alone really scares the crap out of me and i just cant bare being alone any more
I am sorry to hear you are having problems. I can truly understand where you are coming from. I can’t get over how many people want to use me for their own goodie bag (If you will) think of only themselves. The world is changing so much so fast. I can’t understand why more and more people think about themselves first. Being alone scares me as well. I try and find people to email and chat with that has the same ideals as me. It does help out. I just try and do my best and not look at the darker side of this world we live in. I tell myself I must think positive and live life to the fullest. You never know when it will end. A second, minute, hour, day ect.. I am not perfect. I try and do the right things, with this being said. I think looking at the positive things this world has to offer (even as few as there are) can bring some peace. Things don’t happen overnight but the longer one waits, the more chances you could miss out of something truly wonderful. I don’t think there is anything wrong with you. Just this world can affect people in different ways some good and some bad.
Hope you feel better. I read these in my frustration as a male, and even though I "feel your pain" it's good to know there are some real women looking for things that matter in life! (ie partnership, more than sex and repeat infatuations). Wanted to add there are professional, intelligent, cool, kind, commitment-minded guys who are looking for strong values more than to get laid. and one day the right one will find you and you'll both be so happy. Stand your ground, it'll work out. some guys in love, want to honor you as a person and to have sex with you (in that order). For me, no sex when the attraction is strong and new, is yes difficult but it could be what it takes to build a good relationship. how unmanly to say right, maybe even a little blasphemous here in America
I am looking for anonymous moral support for my feeling of being single forever and found this site. While I am also not in a relationship, I will say that by keeping the focus off of yourself and into others (not saying that you are selfish but to just practice it more) will bring out the best in you and may even attract a guy when you dont know it. Focusing on others, your goals, and hobbies I think will not only build more confidence to attract the kind of guy you want, but also make you a more well rounded individual. I have been TRYING to practice not focusing on myself and by pursing my goals. I have seen results, i have made new friends and dated a couple guys. I have matured a LOT from before i really started to practice this change. So try it out, others and your soul will appreciate it.