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Q: Feel less important than xbox video games
asked by: littlelindylou on July 11th, 2009
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me and my bf have been together almost 9 months now.
at the beginning things were really rough for us because
alot of family issues on my side occurred. I would go over to his house everyday after school and spend most of my weekends there too. we'd cuddle, talk all night, laugh, watch movies, just spend alot of time with eachother. I moved in with him about 2 months ago, and things have changed rapidly. he doesnt spend basically any time with me. hes always playing xbox, and after we have sex he goes on the xbox right away. ive tried talking to him, ive tried pleading with him, ive cried to him asking him to spend some more time with me , and he puts up a fight. i understand every one needs there space, i honestly do. but he spends MAYBE 2 hours with me a day. thats less than he did when i wasnt living with him. i thought movng in together would bring us closer and is some ways it has, but in other ways its ripping us apart. i told him how i feel, i told him that i feel less important, and that i always have to compete with the xbox. you would think like after have sex with me , you'd wanna spend alittle time with me afterwards right? .

so what im asking is, what the hell should i do.
should i stay
should i go
or what?
PLEASE I NEED HELP. i dont wanna lose him, but it may come down to it.
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drummerfaerie
replied on July 11th, 2009
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uuuuuuum i dunno that's a tough situation. i would say seek some counseling. if he is unwilling seek some yourself. sometimes leaving is the kick in the pants that they need to realize what they're taking for granted. i would get some counseling either way. it doesn't mean that you're dysfunctional. counseling helps people learn how to communicate with eachother in ways they wouldn't have known otherwise. maybe there's something he's not saying that he doesn't really know how to say. you know? or maybe you can learn a new way to get your point across to him. it's worth a try.
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littlelindylou
replied on July 11th, 2009
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i never even thought of that.
thats a good idea.
thanks:)
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W0LF
replied on July 11th, 2009
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Hey Lindilou
It's probably nothing to do with the Xbox. I have a respectable video game addiction but still keep my relationships going. I have however had other issues where hobbies become a problem to the relationship. Not out of obsession but because I needed my space emotionally. A lot of men have trouble when a girl moves in and need time away from her to process the change. If you've had a month of this and it's not changing it's very possible that he can't cope or perhaps he's processed all he needs to and he's moving on without you. Either way if he understands it's upsetting you and he can't pull it together you need to move out and re-evaluate the relationship. Sorry, I wish love was easier when you're young.
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