Feedback needed on ending a relationship

I had an affair for about 2 months. We are in our 40s. Her husband had a small stroke and she needed space. That was when I realized I loved her. I was hurt after being out of town 8 days and come back and she needs another week. I realized she probably saw the relationship only in context of an "affair" and also felt more guilt after his stroke. That is understandable because those were the rules we understood. I told her I valued her more than an affair and realized basing a relationship off of lies would not be good for our future and I want a future with her. Her husband is out of town alot and disrespects her kids and her. I feel like she is not treated like she deserves. I know she and I are wrong and she admitted it too. I told her I love her unconditionally and I dont want to lose her totally. However we need to not cheat in anyway. So we are just talking briefly once or twice a month about our grown up kids mostly. She said she loved me but could not commit totally and neither can I right now because of health issues in our marriage. Anyway, it hurts so bad but I know we were doomed in the affair context. Do you think she appreciates how much I value her? Enough to deprive myself of gratification with the hopes of being together later? I know it was right to end it but I am heartbroken. Ever seen anyone get together later in life?